Pregnancy is synonymous with change. The physiological change in pregnancy become evident quickly, the emotional and psychological changes less so.  This article will look at the role of parents in dealing with some of these changes and suggest how best to handle the challenges that lie ahead.

The news of being pregnant often brings about mixed emotions, as you ask yourself “am I ready for this?” This little creature growing inside you is going to turn your world upside down. Life as you once knew it will never be the same again. Pregnancy and parenthood is a huge responsibility. Often your circumstances may not be ideal, but, in fact there will never be a ‘perfect’ time to get pregnant. So give yourself time for the news to sink in, knowing that this initial feeling of doubt is not uncommon and very natural.

According to a study published today, research conducted by the University of Missouri-Columbia, the acceptance of pregnancy by the mother is the first step to developing a secure bond between mother and baby. Poor attachment results in the child having issues with self-esteem, learning difficulties and a tendency to form dysfunctional relationships. So as your progress through your pregnancy if the thought of having a baby still weighs you down, it is best to seek help to redress the situation.

The remedy may be as simple as talking your feelings through with your partner or a friend or taking time off from your everyday routine to unwind and relax. Attending a prenatal yoga class that helps you get in touch with yourself and baby can also be useful in dealing with change in pregnancy. If all else fails it is be best to consult a professional to ensure the well-being of both mother and baby. 

Another relationship that undergoes change in pregnancy is the mother’s relationship with her spouse. A recent study conducted by the Norwegian Institute of Public Health, which involved 50,000 expectant mothers found that the amount of support that the mother received from her spouse during her pregnancy had a direct impact on her mental health. Lack of support led to anxiety and depression, which in turn resulted in premature birth, low birth weight and poor health in the child. It also indicated a strong link between prenatal blues and post-natal depression.

Fathers tend to take a back seat in pregnancy, often just seeing himself in his traditional role as the ‘provider’, who is no longer ‘centre stage’ in his partner’s life. In light of these studies, acknowledging the father’s role in supporting you will go a long way in contributing your family’s welfare. Change in pregnancy is inevitable, and may cause stress and tension. Being mindful of this and carefully working through the trying times will lay a solid foundation for the well-being of your family.  

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