To be the most successful motivational speaker that you can be, use your daily life experiences to develop your professional motivational speaking skills.

For instance, in your personal life, how do you cope with someone being disagreeable or argumentative with you?

Do you lose your cool? Do you launch into an aggressive verbal offense?

Do you feel insecure and unsure of yourself?

Well, this sort of thing is bound to happen in the course of your motivational speaker career.

Professional speaking demands more than inspiring delivery skills. It demands, well, PROFESSIONALISM.

Professionalism includes the ability to rise above petty personal conflict. It includes the ability to maintain your cool and respond to audience members (clients) in line with your intention to achieve your professional goals.

Occasionally, an audience member will attempt to deliberately lure you into a personal conflict for no other purpose than to derail your performance.

We could analyze his or her deep, dark motivations endlessly, but that would take us off track.

And this is an important point.

As a professional public speaker you need to avoid getting so caught up in how an audience member is performing that you overlook how YOU are performing.

Being successful at speaking motivationally requires that you remain positive, loving, joyful, grateful, encouraged, secure and self-confident. Your attitude counts at least as much as your message.

In your personal life, when relationship enters a state of strife, it drains you of some of the power of motivation you need to lead a successful life.

The same thing happens if you fall into the snare of personal conflict with a member of your audience: you lose some of the power of your motivation needed to captivate your audience.

Top motivational speakers know how to side-step contentiousness for the higher purpose of succeeding at their inspiring keynote speech or training-seminar.

To find yourself among these top performers in the motivational speaking business takes practice, practice, practice.

Don’t wait for speakers bureaus to place you at the podium. Don’t wait for a speaking engagement that you obtain on your own to practice your skills.

Use your daily life experience to practice.

Keeping an audience engaged is a lot like team building.

Sometimes you focus on one member of the team, one member of the audience. But you need to balance that by relating with team or audience as a whole.

Deliberately engaging in positive, inspiring speech in your daily, interpersonal relationships is one practice that will pay. And another is the practice of deliberately DIS-engaging from contentious squabbling with your mate, your children, and with anyone else.

Self-control is like a muscle that strengthens with exercise. As you exercise the self-control needed to NOT be lured into a conflict with contrary or argumentative people, you develop a crucial skill you need to achieve your goals in the speaker business.

Not only will you achieve greater success as a professional motivational speaker, you will experience the delight of more peace and less pointless strife in your life!