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They say that the only thing that we can be sure of in life is that we will die. We all hope to have a long and fulfilled life and for many of us that is achievable. Some however will leave before they have achieved all they wanted to before they have even reached their peak, they will all have died too young.
Although we know that it's part of life we are all distressed by the death of a loved one, even if they have lived to be a hundred, have done everything they ever wanted to do and it is just their time to leave. On these occasions the grief is probably more for ourselves than them, it's the realisation that we will have to live the rest of our lives without them being there to share it. It's also a reality check because as each person at the head of the family goes you yourself move up one rung towards the inevitable.
I had my first experience of losing a loved one at the age of 9, my grandmother died too young at the age of 64. That's her in the picture with me as a baby, my grandfather on the other hand went on to live until he was 94. He saw both me and my brother get married and met 2 of his great grandchildren. His hadn't had a particularly easy life, his mother passed away when he was quite young and he never got on particularly well with his stepmother, he fought in the trenches in the first world war and had seen some hard times but he had made his own way in life, built up a small business and was self sufficient. He did lose the woman he loved at 71 but he didn't live his remaining 23 years alone as he had the rest of his family around him and you could say that all said, his was a good life.
When I was 21, two of my friends fell from a balcony while on holiday in Spain and died. Their deaths hit the local community very hard as they were only 20 and most of the village crammed into the church to attend their funerals. They never went on to get married and have children like I have but they are often in my thoughts, in fact I think of them more than I do about other friends that I have just lost touch with over the years. When you die, whether you believe in an after life or not, you can be sure that, even if you died too young, while there are people still alive who cared about you while you were here, you too are still alive in their hearts.
It's very difficult to deal with the early death of someone close to you, especially if they were contributing so much to others while they were alive. It's sometimes easier to deal with if you look back and think of all the things they did achieve in their lives and the good things they left behind for others.
I agree because sometimes it's so unfair that its the only way to rationalise it!
My wife's father died a short while after our first child was born. My wife put together a packet of information so our kids would know their grandfather.
My Dad is 90 and whenever he goes, it will be to young!
Yes I agree, my dad is in his 80s and really not ready to let him go yet
Yes even if someone has a debilitating disease and they want to go, the actually passing is painful for the one left behind
Yeah death sucks, I never even got to meet my grandfathers, and my dad passed when he was only 58 years old, very sad
My mum's dad died just before my parents got married so I only know him from pictures and stories but I was really blessed to have my paternal grandfather around until I was 32 and had a wonderful relationship with him
Yeah very lucky, my parents didn't have me until they were 30 and 31 years old, I guess that's why I didn't get to meet my grandfathers...although my dad told me his dad was not worth meeting, I would like to have known my moms dad, the way everyone talks about him.
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