Have you ever broken up with someone or had an affair, then realized that your original relationship sex life was better for it?

Couples do this all the time. Human beings naturally want to explore, fantasize, create, and bring richness to our lives. When we do this, we come to understand that things are different and in some ways better on the other side.

But we also want to come back to what's familiar. Our original relationships are familiar, and we've established a deep bond with someone. So when we go out and have an affair, we often come back to the bedroom with our first lover - provided they forgive us - feeling like we're in a brand NEW relationship. Even though we aren't.

Don't get the wrong idea; I'm not encouraging you to in any way cheat or be dishonest with your ex girlfriend. I'm just saying that it's often the case that couples find their sex life to be better after one of the other has been in an affair.

Why is this? Because exploring a different relationship "recharges our batteries", so to speak. When you're with someone else, you're learning new things from that person, which in turn can be taken to your old relationship.

This is a cycle all human beings go through, and why you may find that your reconciliation sex with an ex girlfriend is actually better than the way your sex life was before you broke up.

Obviously you'll have to go through the reconciliation process correctly to get your ex girlfriend back, but once you do, there's a beautiful thing that happens: you'll often be happier. Many couples find that when they get back together after a rocky breakup, they appreciate each other in new ways.

This is one reason it can be better than any other remedy to go out and meet new women after your ex girlfriend leaves you. I know it sucks, and it's just HARD, because you only want one girl. But here's the thing: she probably still wants you, too. She just knows that she needs some time away from you.

So look at it as a positive thing. You're actually going to be a healthier, happier person if you get in touch with yourself again, then go out and meet new women. You can always get back with your ex girlfriend. The key is to not sweat it - and to not get desperate - while working slowly but surely through the steps to reconnect with your ex.