Winning your ex back after infidelity, is it possible? Cheating is seen by many people as the ultimate betrayal, and rightfully so in my opinion. A breakup is bad enough, but when cheating is added to the mixture it concentrates the sadness that both you and your ex are feeling. You feel like the lowest of the low for doing what you did, your ex feels betrayed and deeply hurt. At this stage you may be thinking that your ex will never want you back. The situation that you find yourself in now isn't as dreadful and insurmountable as you think.

Countless people have been in the same situation and gone on to win their ex's heart back. Now is the time to reflect on the situation that you and the person that you love are in. The challenge ahead is going to be a big one, but with the right knowledge you can achieve your goal and get your ex back.

Gaining An Insight Into Your Ex's Feelings After Your Infidelity

Before taking the first steps towards getting your ex back you must understand what they are feeling right now. The range of emotions that they will be feeling will vary, they are going to feel angry, sad, betrayed, helpless and maybe even revengeful. You have to give your ex the space to work out their feelings while at the same time you will have to let them know how remorseful you are, and that they are the one that you love. Rather than using Facebook, text messages, or e-mail, writing a personal letter would be the perfect way to achieve this as it will be more heartfelt.

Cheating on the person that you love is not a small cut, it is a deep wound that will take time to heal. It is very important that you give your ex adequate space. Trying to push for contact at this point would be akin to pouring gasoline on an already raging fire, it will blow up in your face. After a while your ex will come around a bit and start to miss you. However, they will still feel betrayed and the likelihood is they will not want to restart the relationship at this point.

Feelings Can't Be Ignored, Your Ex Will Still Love You Despite The Betrayal

Your ex will still love you, there is no doubt about this. When a breakup comes about after an episode of cheating there is still hope. You have a better chance of winning your ex back simply because the relationship ended all of a sudden and not as a result of bickering, fights, and growing apart from on another.

When you cheated you laid down the gauntlet and gave your ex no choice except break up with you. Now you wish you never gave into temptation, the cost is just far too high. It is up to you to put things right. If you truly love your ex then you will pull out all the stops to make sure that you win them back and make it up to them.

Love can't be snuffed out overnight. Even though your ex is very hurt they will still harbor feelings for you. They might be trying to suppress those feelings but rest assured, they still exist. There are ways to bring these feelings within your ex back to the fore. With the right techniques and the knowledge to implement them you will be able to get out of the dark tunnel that you are in and get your ex back.

Moving Forward Towards Forgiveness And Starting Anew

Making up after breaking up can be a slow process, especially if cheating was the reason for the breakup. The trust that was built up during the course of your relationship will lie in a shattered heap. It will take time to build that trust back up and reinforce it. You will have to pledge to your ex that you will never cheat again. You and your ex will have to take the time out to deal with your cheating. If you bury the issue it will haunt your relationship and create strife down the line.

The issue has to be dealt with comprehensively, a line has to be drawn under it. When that happens then you and the person that you love can go on and rebuild the trust that is necessary for all relationships to function correctly. This may not seem possible now, but if you are willing to put in the effort to win your ex back then it is achievable.

What Do I Do Now?

Understanding why you were dumped is an essential first step towards winning back your ex, when you have a deep understanding of the ins and outs of this then you will be in a much better overall position.

Being able to read the signs that your ex still likes you is also very important as it will indicate when you should make your move. An ability to read your ex will take most, if not all of the guesswork of of the equation. In order to restart your relationship you must first make a serious effort to gain the knowledge that you will need to complete the task.