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Dealing With Breakups - 3 Questions You Need To Be Asking Yourself
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Dealing With Breakups - 3 Questions You Need To Be Asking Yourself

Dealing with breakups can be an agonizing mental, emotional, and physical experience. It just plain hurts! But, a few brave souls are going to want to know how they can get their ex back. While there are numerous options out there, the single most common question you're probably asking yourself is...How do I get him back?

If you find yourself asking this question, than you need to be asking yourself 3 important questions and think about how you would answer them.

Do You Really Want Him Back...Why?

When dealing with breakups your mind will be going through lots of turmoil. Now, if you think you want him back after breaking up with him, you need to know why. For some, a steady boyfriend represents stability, and it is this stability your probably trying to keep in your life. The most important question you should be thinking is why you really want him back, not how to get him back. Does that make sense to you?

Does He Want To Get Back Together With You?

Put yourself in your boyfriends shoes and think about his situation. Would he entertain the idea of getting back together with you? Everyone as you know is different, some boyfriends will not want to get back together, while other boyfriends will at least give the idea some thought. If you're contemplating getting back with him, get into his way of thinking. If he is the type who will try again, then put the effort in to try to get him back. If you think he will not like the idea of getting back with you, save yourself from more heartache and move on.

Do You With All Sincerity What Him Back?

Put your relationship you had with him under a micro-scope. Think long and hard about the things that broke you apart. Take you feelings about him into consideration, both what felt good and what hurt. Now, really, do you with all honesty want to get back with him? Was he the type of boyfriend you wanted? Did he treat you well? You have just broken up, so your mind will only be thinking of the good times you had with each other. Things that felt good and made you happy. But what about the bad things, we tend to gloss over those.

Put some serious thought into why you broke up in the first place and the relationship you had with your ex boyfriend. Do this before attempting to get back with him. Your boyfriend might be thinking completely different then you. Why try getting back together if he doesn't care about the relationship?

You may just be looking for the comfort,safety,and stability as mentioned at the beginning of this article, your ex boyfriend may not actually provide you with those things anymore. That is why its imperative you think things through and answer these three question when dealing with breakups. Do not try to win back a boyfriend you really do not want to be with.


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