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Breaking up is hard to do.  What a great song that is.  Unfortunately it is the truth.  It is even harder if the break up wasn’t your idea, or it came out of the blue.  You may have thought everything was going great, and then all of a sudden you are left wondering what happened.  You start to blame yourself for everything.  You start to question every move that you make.  This can be a very trying time in someone’s life especially if you really love the other person, and you thought they were the one.

After you have a chance to cool down and think things through you can go to that person and try to work things out.  You need to make sure that you get past all of the emotion first.  The last thing that you want to do is let your emotions run the conversation.  This is especially true if you don’t think you did anything wrong.  You may not even realize that you really hurt your partner.  You need to have a calm conversation about what happened, and why they wanted to end things.  It could be because of a simple misunderstanding, which can be worked out easily.  It could also be a very complicated problem that is going to take a lot of time and effort to work out.  Either way you need to get to the root of the problem.

Once you have established what the problem is now you can start working on it.  If it is something that you did make sure you apologize.  This is critical!  Apologizing is one of the hardest things to do, but one of the most important things.  Nobody likes to admit that they are wrong, but if you are you need to own up to it.  This will mean a lot to your partner.

Forgiving is also important element of getting back together.  It may take a while for forgiveness to happen, but in order to move on you need to be able to forgive, or wait until your partner is able to forgive you.  You can’t move on in a relationship until you have forgiven.  This does not mean that you forget, but you cannot keep bring it up every time you hit a road block.

I hope that this helps you in your relationship.  If you feel that it is worth fighting for do it.  Don’t just sit there and hope that your partner comes back.  Take some action.


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