If you’re reading this article, I take it that you are likely to be emotionally stressed over losing someone you love lately. Even though, you have gone on separate ways, you are still hoping to give another shot, swallowing your pride and reuniting with your ex. Here, are some points on how to get your ex-boyfriend back.

The makeover. Give yourself a makeover. Be it your hair, attitude or start a new hobby. Head to your favorite hair stylist for a new look, shop for clothes that will bring out your inner goddess and start a new hobby to occupy your mind.

Swim among the fish. It’s not the end of the world, sister. After getting a makeover, you are preparing to give dating a try. This will show your ex that you are ready to move on and not a desperate clingy ex-girlfriend.

Reconnect. While you are enjoying a few drinks with a guy you met over the weekend, the one month cooling period is over and now is time to reconnect with your old relationship. Before you approach your ex, it is important to check your feelings if A you can live without him and ready to move on or B you can’t.

It is important to not to appear desperate and act cool that gives off the ready-to-move-on vibrate. Do not cry or beg. If that happens, you will lose points in getting back with your ex. So if, you are really wishing that you can talk to your ex, don’t do it unless you are ready to move on and you no longer care about him.

Call him, maybe. When you are confident enough, make the most basic and post-breakup movement: the phone call. The goal of the phone call is to ask for a short casual get together. NO, you are not supposed to be asking for a date but just spend some quality time with him, trying to ignite the spark.

It is possible that your ex won’t answer your call. At this point, calling him a thousand times a day until you get to talk to him is very tempting. Don’t do this as you may appear desperate. As an alternative, you should just wait a couple of days to call him again. This must be difficult to do on your part, but your ex will get the idea that you are not desperate. In the end, you just need to do this in order to get your ex boyfriend back.

Take it slow. If, your first get together turned out well, give it a little break about a week or so before you try asking him out again. It is possible that he might have something for you. If this happens, just go with the flow. And if you’ve been going out for more than a month and it seems like you both are acting like you are back together, you still need to have the talk to confirm that you were able to get your ex boyfriend back.