So you have been single for a couple of months and you’re thinking about getting back your ex. Well…that’s probably a lot easier said than done, but not impossible. Unless of course it was an extremely volatile break-up, if that was the case then maybe it’s best if you both just move on and find someone new.

But let’s assume that this was not the case, first of all, do you know what caused the break-up in the first place? Are you sure? If you do then are you ready to take the necessary steps to remedy the problem. But before you can start getting back your ex you first have to find out if they’re even open to idea.

You have to find a way to break the ice…to get the lines of communication open. You could start by leaving them a short message thanking them for some small thing to build curiosity, curiosity is a very strong emotion and if your ex is open to dialog should be just the thing to get he or she to call.

Once contact has been re-established don’t be pleading or clingy…be yourself, be confident act as if everything is good for you. Show that you care…see if they are open to getting a cup of coffee or a snack together. Don’t immediately start in about why you broke-up, that should be something you work into after you have seen each other a couple of times and are a little more comfortable.

Besides…you already have had a couple of months to think about it so you should have a pretty good idea of what needs to be corrected. Just remember to be yourself because that’s what worked the first time around…right? And I’m sure this is not a one sided affair…there was probably damage done from both sides, but the important thing to getting back your ex is that you’re both willing to work together to change those things.

In any relationship there has to be compromise and nobody is perfect but the important thing is recognize those things that are imperfect and work around them. Again…there has to be give and take on both sides…work together instead of against each other. Be careful not to assign blame, be apologetic but not to the point of being whinny. Don’t be confrontational that will only start arguments again and that’s not what getting back your ex is all about.