This Article is About
broken relationship
piece of the puzzle
time step
uphill battle
step 1
Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back In 3 Steps
Join 1000's of Authors at StreetArticles Today!

Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back In 3 Steps

Trying to rebuild a broken relationship and make something lasting out of it is a process - often a long and arduous one. If you've been through it before, you probably recognize that some techniques work better than others - and some don't work at all. If this is your first attempt in getting your ex boyfriend back, you may be in for an uphill battle.

Like anything else you have to learn to do, you can almost guarantee that you'll make some mistakes along the way. In such a precarious scenario, however, even the smallest mistakes can end up costing you, and they may end up slamming the door on a potential relationship with your ex-boyfriend permanently. The question is not how you can get your ex to give you another shot - if you follow the steps correctly, your ex will be chasing you just like he did before you got together the first time.

Step #1 - Don't Leave a Mess Behind:

While the word messy is often synonymous with the word breakup, it is something that should be avoided at all costs if you're looking to reconcile down the road. The first thing you need to do is recognize that the breakup did, in fact, happen - even though you didn't want it to. Whether or not you reconnect in the future should not be your central focus. Before you can work towards getting back together you have to accept the fact that you're not together now - and that's a very hard reality for most people to face.

After the acceptance phase has passed, your most critical priority is to avoid all contact with your ex-boyfriend completely. Now is not the time for you to be exchanging text messages or wars on each other's Facebook wall. A period of silence after a breakup is a mandatory component to eventually winning him back and if you continue communication you're never going to have the chance that you're hoping for. By keeping your distance you're allowing your ex to face his own reality - the fact that you're not around. Your absence is going to create an important piece of the puzzle - he's going to miss you.

Step #2 - Overcome Your Own Obstacles:

While you're busy doing everything in your power to make your ex-boyfriend feel as if you've dropped off of the face of the earth entirely, every single second can feel like decades. It's normal - when you're involved in a relationship the majority of your free time is claimed by your partner. Since he's gone and you're not communicating right now you need something to fill the void.

Nothing says distraction like some good old hard work. Start that spice garden that you've been meaning to get to for years. Take up a new hobby. Thoroughly clean and re-organize your house (and in the process you can set aside anything that makes you think of your ex or items that he may have left behind). Become a volunteer at a program that you feel connected to or take on a special project at work. If none of that sounds appealing, you can always renew your commitment to the gym. Physical exercise not only naturally releases stress but it transforms your body while you're working on transforming your mind at the same time. Just imagine how hot you're going to be the next time your ex-boyfriend stumbles across your path.

Step #3 - Enlist Outside Support:

The most important thing that you need to think about in the moments when you feel down is that you're not the only person in the world who has experienced an unwanted breakup. All of your friends have been in your shoes at one point or another - all of your family members, too. Since they understand exactly what you're going through, they're in a perfect position to help out when you turn to them for help. They'll be eager to offer you distractions, advice or just a shoulder to cry on when you need it. Being alone can be the hardest after the end of a relationship, so surround yourself with positive people that can make you remember how to have fun - even if your ex isn't around.

These steps can seem like a recipe for moving forwards with your life - not a guide to getting him back. The reality is that they're both. No one is guaranteed a second chance, even if they do everything right. Every breakup and every ex-boyfriend is different. The beauty of this process is that it puts you in a positive frame of mind - and nothing can catch the eye of the opposite sex like a woman who is confident, happy and independent. Your ex-boyfriend is most likely dying of curiosity by now and he's going to want to get the scoop on what you've been up to. By sticking to the plan and not folding halfway, you're on the track to success and it's going to pay off in a big way - regardless of the outcome.

Your Next Steps

Whilst these steps are useful, they are not all that you have to do, there is much more that you need to understand about the male psyche, how they behave after the break up and what they really think about you now. Your first step is to make sure that you DO NOT make any of these bad break up mistakes, they will make him think of you negatively and make him run for the hills. You may not think that you are doing anything wrong at all, most women don't, but you need to be aware of your actions if you want to make him want you back.

Street Talk


just want to start this way by giving a huge thanks to this man DR RED for what he has done in my life . at first i thought it won,t work because many has failed me before but on a second thought i said let me just try and to my best surprises Henry my husband that said and insist he has nothing to do with me and my family called me immediately this great man DR RED of cast a love spell on him and started begging for forgiveness well i love him so much and at once i accepted him back and today we are both living in pace and harmony, all the same the glory is to this man DR RED of DOC I THANK YOU once again for you are worthy of all the thanks in my mouth today and forever am grateful and shall ever be to you . i also want to say if you are out there passing through a similar stuff or issues you can contact him today and i believe him will also help you out ,,,,

  about 9 years ago
You May Also Like
Will He Ever Come Back To Me? - How To Make It Happen
If you've recently experienced the pain of an unwanted and unexpected breakup, you're probably consumed with one thought. You want your relationship back, and you want it back now. While there is no magic wand to instantly fix a broken relationship, there are some proven techniques that can increase your…
By:  in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Aug 21, 2012  
  Likes: 39

My Ex Boyfriend Sent Me A Text - Why?
So your ex boyfriend sent you a text - what does it all mean? Although your relationship is over, in a lot of ways it's like nothing has changed. You feel like you're stuck in limbo - you know that you either need to start working towards repairing your broken…
By:  in  Relationships  >  Communication   Sep 15, 2012  
  Likes: 2

How To Make A Broken Relationship Work
Couples break up every day, it’s a sad but true fact. Many times the break up was for reasons that really aren’t all that difficult to work out. I think that so often we go into a relationship and everything is just so wonderful. Then one day, it starts falling…
By: Lacey Wolf in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Jul 08, 2012  
  Likes: 3

Discover How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back!
Do you want to get your ex boyfriend back, whom you loved dearly with all your heart and soul? Do you now regret the break-up? Well, why don’t you get him back? It may sound desperate but, ladies, if you truly loved someone with whom you had a messy break…
By: Sevgi2 in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Sep 15, 2012  
  Likes: 0

How To Get Your Ex Back Fast - Hereis The Fast Solution
So you are trying too hard to find out the possible ways of how to get your ex back fast. You have to learn the process to fix the problem to get your ex back. Maybe there are lots of reasons for your broken relationship, yet you can do something…
By: A. B. Sahu in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Feb 29, 2012  
  Likes: 2

Fixing Broken Relationship: Only Communication Will Work
It is not uncommon for a marriage or a relationship to fail, and you probably know many which have fallen apart. It is a shame to see two happy people who have fallen in love and then have their relationship fall apart due to circumstances. What are those circumstances, how…
By: Riedi in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Nov 11, 2012  
  Likes: 1

How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back When He Has Already Started Dating Another Girl
Getting heartbroken or heart breaking someone does not mean that the person becomes your permanent enemy. Seeing your ex boyfriend out there enjoying with another girl while you are single or in a complicated relationship may make you feel jealousy. Regardless of who was the cause of the breaking of…
By: Franklin2 in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Feb 25, 2013  
  Likes: 1

Get Your Ex Back By Ignoring Your Friends Advice
So you want to get your ex back but your friends are telling you to give up on getting back the loser. They think they understand the pain that you are going through but they don’t. In fact, they continue to make matters worse as you struggle to be strong…
By: D P Haynes in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Aug 01, 2011  
  Likes: 0

Winning Your Boyfriend Back - You Have To Do This Before It Can Happen
If you're daydreaming constantly about rekindling your broken relationship and it's the only thing that pervades your thoughts, it's time to move out of your head and into reality. It's normal to want your relationship back - it's a sign that you were fully invested and that your feelings are…
By:  in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Aug 21, 2012  
  Likes: 4

How to Repair a Broken Relationship
It can be quite confusing, I know. You’ve invested time in a relationship as well as what I like to call ‘emotional capital’. You’d hate to see the effort go for nothing, and it feels like that is what’s happening. As a result, you may be just pretending to be…
By: Ron Davies in  Relationships  >  Wedding   Oct 12, 2011  
  Likes: 0

Getting Ex Boyfriend Back
Have you recently broken up with you boyfriend and all you care for is getting your ex boyfriend back? Do you still want to save your relationship and rekindle it? I'm quite sure you want to and that has led you to this article. What happens during most breakups is…
By: Sindri Thorgeirsson in  Relationships   Feb 18, 2011  
  Likes: 3

Healing My Broken Relationship With Money
I have recently come to the revelation that I have a broken relationship with money. I know this is true because I have found myself saying "I am broke", almost daily. I would go so far as to say I am sick and tired of being broke, yet I stayed…
By: robinincarolina in  Self Improvement  >  Abundance Prosperity   Dec 29, 2011  
  Likes: 4

Should I Text Him After The Break Up? - The Rules
After a breakup, it's a common mistake to jump right back into communicating with your ex. As much as you miss having him around and enjoy the time you spend together, establishing contact too quickly can squash your chances of getting your ex-boyfriend back. If you move too quickly or…
By:  in  Relationships  >  Communication   Aug 18, 2012  
  Likes: 4

What To Text Your Ex - Examples To Attract Them Again
What to text your ex after the break up is often a tricky and confusing dilemma. Breakups shake up the very nature of what you consider to be reality, and text messages can be a valuable tool that can help you regain your relationship and put the pieces back together.…
By: Isabella Rose in  Relationships  >  Communication   Jan 29, 2013  
  Likes: 0

Is Calling My Ex Boyfriend A Good Idea? - The Bad News
For a woman, no time seems more uncertain or unclear than the period after a breakup when she wants to reconnect with her ex-boyfriend. A lot of things hang in the balance, and you have more questions after the breakup than you did before it happened. It's hard to know…
By:  in  Relationships  >  Communication   Aug 18, 2012  
  Likes: 3

Article Views: 2158    Report this Article