Everyone has an opinion whether it be right or wrong. If you are just going through a breakup your friends and family obviously are going to have an opinion as to what you should do. Be wary though as some of these opinions can be more harmful than good especially if you are trying to win your ex girlfriend back. Some of your friends and family's pinion may actually encourage you to be manipulative and childish. Stay clear of this type of advice if you are serious about winning your ex girlfriend back.

So what steps should you take to get your ex girlfriend back?

The first step lies with you. Take a good look at yourself. What mistakes did you make in the past that had a direct influence on the breakdown of your relationship with your ex girlfriend? Your next step would be to pick some of these traits that you feel need to be improved upon and make a commitment to do just that. This will take time and effort so make sure you are truly committed. This could help you to get your ex girlfriend back and generally make you a better person.

The next step also lies with you. You need to get out and be social. Go out with friends that you may have pushed aside when you were dating your girlfriend. One thing you should steer clear of though if you are serious about winning back your ex girlfriend is to go out with other women. You may very well make your ex girlfriend jealous but that usually doesn't help you to get your ex back. So be social but avoid the dating scene.

Did you ever want to go somewhere that your girlfriend was not keen on or take up a hobby that she was totally not thrilled about? Well now is the time to do those things. With no one to hold you back get out explore the world challenge yourself with new things. There is no time like the present to improve yourself and maybe your ex girlfriend will be impressed by the changes you are making in your life.

Would you believe that the next step to take that will help to win back your ex girlfriend also lies with you. There does seem to be a pattern to this doesn't there. Anyway when people go through a breakup it is very hard emotionally and physically. Exercise can help to relieve some of that stress plus it will keep your body in good shape. Nothing wrong with looking good for when you contact your ex.

Exercise done on a regular basis has many benefits for a person physically and mentally.

Now that you have made some improvements and have let some time go by without contacting your ex it may be time to make that initial contact. Your ex girlfriend is probably aware of some of the changes you made through mutual friends so that could work in your favour. Even so keep things very casual when you first contact her. If you two fought a lot she may not want to get into a confrontation with you and may very well want to avoid you so you need to keep it very casual and friendly. She will need time to trust you again. As the trust builds and she sees the new and improved you then your chances of winning back your ex girlfriend have greatly improved.

By taking the above steps and not playing the stupid relationship games that some people do you have a much better chance at getting your ex girlfriend back. Your relationship needs to be built on trust not childish manipulative games.