It is very easy to overlook the obvious when you are desperate to get back together with your ex. You know that you are in pain and you want relief. No one can say for sure that you and your ex will get back together but there are some steps you can take to give yourself a better chance of restoring your relationship.

One of the most important steps in getting your ex back that is often overlooked is taking a look in the mirror. If you are like most of us, you probably blame your ex for the breakup or perhaps hold him or her responsible for making you do something you didn’t want to do. In other words, it’s not your fault, right?

Well when you are trying to get back together with your ex, one thing you need to do is come to grips with the fact that for your ex to want to get back together, something about you might need to be different. Unless there was a big misunderstanding, there is a reason why you guys broke up. So, now is the best time for you to take a step back and figure out what happened, why it happened and how you can change things once you get back together.

Before we go any further, I must confess that I don’t condone staying in an abusive relationship. If there is physical abuse in your marriage I would recommend that you get help from the local authority. There is no place in my opinion for physical or emotional abuse. You deserve to be treated respectfully and with dignity. Don’t accept anything less.

Tips To Get Your Ex Back

Don’t try to force your way back into a relationship. As I mentioned above, when you breakup with someone you love you have a tendency to want to get your ex back quickly. You might think that leaving loving or threatening messages will help get you back together. Just put yourself in your ex’s shoes for a moment. What would you do if you ended the relationship and began to get annoying messages or text messages from your ex?

Don’t let your fear of never getting back together with your ex cause you to make desperate moves. It might seem flattering to have someone chasing after you but it gets old pretty quickly. Make sure that you aren’t playing detective and trying to track down where your ex has been or who he or she has been seen with. If you aren’t careful jealousy can creep in and cause you to say and do things you wouldn’t normally do.

Be honest but reserved when you see your ex. I think it’s ok to be honest if your ex asks how you are doing. However, there is no need to go overboard with how great you are doing or how terrible you are doing. Don’t say things like “I have never been better” or “I feel like blowing my brains out”. Strike a balance somewhere in the middle and leave your ex guessing.

One other thing you want to avoid doing is making promises to try to get your ex back. For example, if you have been unfaithful in the past you can’t expect to get back together with your ex based on a promise to be faithful in the future. The way to get your ex back is to let him or her see that you are able to live up to your word. If you say for example that you will stop sending Facebook messages to your ex, make sure you do what you promise to do.

I would also like to encourage you not to let getting back together with your ex consume your days and nights. Although I’m sure that your ex is a catch of a lifetime, don’t let the rest of your life come to a screeching halt. Make sure you keep living and loving life and the pain from the breakup won’t send you into a deep depression.

To summarize, don’t try to force your ex to come back, be honest but don’t go overboard when letting your ex know how your post breakup life is going, don’t act desperate and keep your word.

Finally, one of the things you want to do is put together a plan of action. One of the problems I have seen with folks trying to get back together with a lost love is being unprepared and unorganized. If you want to give yourself the best chance of getting your ex back, use a proven blueprint to help get back an ex.

Remember, the mistakes you avoid are probably just as important as the steps you take. The good news is that you don’t have to figure it out all on your own. Take advantage of the resources available and you should succeed at getting back your ex.