Many men start to wonder“How do I get my girlfriend back” after a break-up. You may begin thinking and analyzing everything that you could have done differently. You may even think about writing an apology or some other plan that might help you get the girl back right away.

This approach usually doesn’t work out very well. Men don't have a clue what the real reason behind the break-up in most cases. Women are very emotional beings and sometimes they don’t even know themselves why they wanted to break-up in the first place. Most of the time it is useless trying to figure out what exactly went wrong.

One of the first things you need to do if you want to get your girlfriend back is to take a break and don't worry about the relationship for a while. This might seem tough but you need to find a way to occupy your time and get your mind off her for the time being. Go out with friends and have some fun or find a hobby or activity you can do.

Taking a couple of weeks off will be beneficial to you and her. This will allow both of you to think about the relationship you had. The more time that passes the more you will think of the positive things you had together and less about the bad thing that lead to the break-up. You will also allow her to miss you and be curious about what you are doing.

Now it is time to take an honest look at the situation and decide if you truly want to get back with her. Or are you ready to move on to something different? If you still want her back then you will want to see how she is feeling about you.

The worst thing you can do at this time is get emotional and beg or plead for her to get back with you. You need to be very strategic about how you will move forward.

You need to play it cool. If you’ve left enough time pass she will be missing you. Play hard to get but don’t overdo it. Let her see that you are doing fine without her. This will really make her think about the relationship that you had.

If thier is a chance that the relationship can be rekindled you will start to see signs of it now. Just play it cool and friendly don’t rush. Just take it slow and thing should start moving in a positive direction again.

This was a brief overview of steps you can take to get your ex-girlfriend back. There are sites devoted to helping couples get back together after break ups that go into a lot more detail that you may find helpful.