If you have just suffered from a breakup, you are probably feeling hurt, angry and confused. However amidst all the mixed emotions you are feeling right now, you are still eager to find ways on how to get back your ex. Most of the time, people around you will tell you to just move on and erase him from your life. But if you believe that he is the one, there is good news for you as broken relationships are still reversible.

Keep a distance

Although you are probably thinking of acting right away to get him back, this is actually not a good idea. Keep a distance from your ex for a few weeks or even months. This means that you should not send a single SMS, IM or email. Do not call him or give surprise visits. Your ex took a time off from your relationship and it is best if you can give him time and space that he needs. If you bombard him with text messages begging to take you back, you are only increasing the risk of making him run further away from you. Pleading will not help as he will just see you as a very needy and clingy girlfriend. This may even convince him that he had made the right decision by breaking up with you earlier.

Think reasonably

After a breakup, you are left hurt, broken and emotionally confused. Being in such a state, you will often find yourself thinking with your heart instead of your brain. Although you are yearning badly for your guy, you should admit to yourself that this is not the end for you. Not being with him will not make you die. So the next important step is to get a hold of your self. Admit that your relationship with him is over, and that you can still live even without your ex. You have family and friends that are supportive and are always there to care for you. Most importantly, you have your self.

When you have already brought yourself back to your senses, think with your brain and be honest to yourself. Is your relationship with your ex worth saving? List down its positive and the negative aspects and decide if you can really have a long and healthy relationship with him.

Learn from the mistakes

If you have decided that you are indeed for each other and want to win him back, it is important to remember how your relationship used to be. Reflect on everything that happened and find where you two went wrong. Know whether you weren’t giving respect and admiration to your partner, if you have imasculated him, or if you are not making him happy anymore. You need learn what can be changed and ponder if you are up for the adjustments that should be done once you get him back.