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Do you feel that your love-life has died an uncelebrated death? Sex is an occasion? Communication has become strained and infrequent. Does “I love you” seem to come out of you mouth in an unconvincing manner? Are the two of you going about life as if you are strangers passing in the night? Well if that IS the case, then this is for you. Get into this and get a new life and find new love in the old…

Fading love, break-down in communication and flagging relationships are the order of the day. Too many people think that this spells the end…OH NO! Guess what? IT IS THE BEGINNING of a new life!

“What did you say?” you might well ask. Yes, you heard right, I said that this is the beginning, NOT THE END! I t often takes a slump to boost a flagging love-life, and I am talking not only of sex here but also of the tenderness and touchy-feely part, the part where the two of you sit & talk, where you have brief words with each-other that mean so much. The “I love you” without actually saying it

You need not FEEL romantic to be romantic, so much of loving someone is NOT feeling it…but rather doing it. There are many types of love, in the language of the Jews they talk of ‘Agapè’, this word comes with a context. It SAYS love, but MEANS ‘a love of effort, not of emotion’. In other words, loving someone is not only in what you FEEL, it is also shown in what you DO for the one you love. So even when you do not FEEL very loving towards your partner, you still get up and DO things, like wash the dishes for your wife, or roll up his socks and pack them away even after an argument And yes, arguments are a natural part of any relationship, this is one of the ways you get to know each-other’s limits, likes & dislikes…but they can be easily defused permanently. There are some very simple ways to diffuse a volatile situation between partners, this is not rocket-science and no university degree is required. The basics of a relationship’s mechanics are not that hard to learn and practise. Willingness is a definite pre-requisite Say for example your partner lashes out at you, keep quiet (this pours sand on the fire), wait patiently-do not fidget or look defiant, when the tirade has passed agree with your partner “I hear you, and I see your point. What you say makes sense and I am sorry you are so angry. Let’s put it right…” The fuse has been put out, the explosives will not be ignited and the door is open to discussion. NEVER FIGHT FIRE WITH FIRE!

When approaching your partner about a touchy issue too, no good will come of finger-pointing or accusations. Hold you tongue in check, it is a small part of your body but can do immense damage. Self-control and a care for the feelings of the other person go a long way to success, even when you are under attack. A relationship is all about two people, not only you and YOUR feelings. Once you begin the feelings of your partner 1st, you will begin to see that things will turn around for you both. Your partner will start doing the same for you…it is also a good idea for both of you tom practise this new way of doing relationships together. Don’t allow yourself to become selfish of this information

Pay close attention to the likes and dislikes of your partner, see what triggers negative reactions and steer clear of those triggers. A little gift once in a while of something your partner really likes (chocolate?) is always a good salve for bruised moments

All of these things are fair and good while you are still together, but what do you after you have split up and want to get back together? What do you do you do if it has become a case of now having to get your ex back? This too, you can discover is a hurdle that can be overcome. Sometimes a break-up is what is needed in order for the two you to gain some time-out and get you ducks all back in a row before you are both ready to get on with the task of restoring your love And YES! You can do things to get your ex to fall madly in love with you all over again, you can discover what a man really wants…and it’s not what you think. You can discover what a girl really wants…and it’s not what you think! If you guess either if these right you need to re-think a little! Why? Because if you do know, then you have not been putting it into practise. Am I right? Forgive if I’m wrong, please

So, now, what do you do with all I have said? Are you interested in getting your ex back or restoring a sad relationship?

It would be easy to waffle on for another 1000 words here, but you would only get bored. You need to find out for yourself...

Discover the truth behind failed relationships AND successful ones! Become one of the successes with ease, and for a long time to come. Once you know these “secrets”, you will not be able to resist putting them into practise. It will come to you so naturally This is Ivan, see you on the other side…

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