Hey there, odds are if you are reading this then you are trying to get your ex back, but it is so damn hard when they don’t return your phone calls isn’t it? Well I am going to help you to get your ex to return your calls, so you can work towards getting them back.

The magic words.

Believe it or not there are actually “magic” words you can use to that will have your ex feeling compelled to get on the phone and return your calls.

Cool right?

I am going to tell you how you can get your ex to return your phone call, text or IM.

First of all I am going to cover some things you should NOT do. These are things that people quite commonly do and end up harming the relationship even more. Whatever you do, DO NOT resort to the following:

• Pleading – Okay, acting as desperate as you possibly can is not going to work. Do not resort to pleading to try and get your ex to contact you. For example “Please call me. This is the 5th time, I really need to talk to you, please call me as soon as you can”.

• It’s an “emergency” – Contacting your ex saying that it is an emergency and that you really need to talk to them. For example “Sarah, it’s an emergency, contact me as soon as you can”. I think you can see for yourself why this is bad, so I won’t go too much into it, let’s move on.

What you are going to do.

You are going to use curiosity and self interest to your advantage. That is the big secret.

Now you are probably wondering, “What the hell does that mean?” So let me explain.

Curiosity and self interest are the two of the most powerful forces in the human mind, when combined, this is your “magic”. So let’s look at what you can say using curiosity and self interest that work with getting your ex to call you back nearly every time:

(in a friendly tone) “High Sarah, it’s James. I just want to let you know that I am really thankful for what you did for me, call me back so I can thank you in person”

Now see how this uses both curiosity and self interest. She will be thinking “what did I do for him?” and “what is he so thankful for?” And she will feel good because it is a positive message.

Before you do this, you need to figure out what it is that you are so thankful for. It doesn’t have to be big, just as long as it’s plausible.

I strongly suggest having some sort of plan or strategy in order when your ex does contact you (besides from telling her what it is you are thankful for). You need to know what the right moves are after your ex talking to you again. If you use just this technique, without an overall plan, this may do more harm to your relationship. So what I am saying is, what you do after getting your ex to return your calls is much more important than getting them to return your calls. You need to have a plan to get your ex back.