Dealing with a breakup is always painful. It usually involves hours of curling up on the bed, locking yourself in the room and crying yourself to sleep. You would usually find yourself in a series of flashbacks where you and your ex are still together. However, it doesn’t stop there because you are geared on what to do to get ex back.

If this is you, then don’t miss the chance to read on. You might actually find this article useful so you would know what things to not do, and to do to get ex back after that heated breakup.

The DON’Ts

You are probably dying to talk to your ex but at this point in time, it is best to give him the space that he needs. Your ex boyfriend broke up with you for a reason, and he is probably expecting some time off. Calling him, texting him, or even sending him tons of IMs will not help. He will only see you as desperate and clingy, and this might drive him off away. So if you don’t want to see yourself being avoided by your loved one, at least try to not exist in his world for the mean time. There is really nothing that you can do to get ex back fast, without having to go through pain again sooner.

Not having communication with your ex boyfriend extends to the boundaries of not being seen. If you and your ex usually visit a certain mall, café or park, try to avoid going to these places. You are trying not to exist his world, and you cannot afford to be seen. This is very difficult, but it will save you from shedding more tears.

If you have mutual friends with your ex, do not cling on them and force them to take sides. You probably want to be heard, and you will surely be sharing your side of the story. This will only put your mutual friends in a very difficult position, and will make you look bad.

If you’re the type who goes out on dates after a breakup to somehow mend your broken heart, do not ever attempt to date any of your ex boyfriend’s buddies. If you really want to get your ex back after some time, do not risk looking bad in his eyes. Try to go on date nights with other guys, but make sure to not date seriously or else you will have a hard time to leave this new dude when your ex is all ready to take you back.

The DOs

Giving your ex boyfriend time and space means you also get to have your own life for yourself. Use this time wisely and stop crying and torturing yourself with memories of him. Go out and hangout with your friends, have a chat with your parents, play with your siblings and just socialize with people who will make you feel better. Do your favorite pastimes and just keep yourself occupied.