Chasing after an ex boyfriend is almost a sure fire way to make sure he keeps running from you. Point blank, it doesn't work and it makes you look pretty desperate and foolish in the process. Instead, learn some methods to get him hot on your trail once again. A little reverse psychology is needed for this.
Turn around and walk in the opposite direction. Now we realize this has nothing to do with actual walking or running, but you know what we're talking about right? Stop making a fool of yourself by continuing to pursue your ex after the break up. If you stop chasing after him, believe me, he will notice. It will also start to bother him and make him curious.
No matter how much you'd love to be trailing this guy, refrain. It is definitely in your best interest to stay away. Keep this in mind because you will have to convince yourself of this in order to resist the urge to pursue him. After the breakup is not the time to be doing this type of thing, so stay strong, especially if you ever have any hopes of winning him back.
No matter what you think you might need to say to your ex, now is not the right time. It is more advisable for you to simply stay away during this time after the break up. The less attention you pay to him right now, the more likely he will be to start pursuing you in the future.
Not Cutting The Ties After The Breakup
The minute your boyfriend broke up with you, the relationship was over. The sooner you accept this fact and move on, the better. The sooner you do this, the sooner you can begin to set your plans for reconciliation in motion.
If you cannot seem to remove yourself emotionally from the situation, and keep sticking around even after the break up, this is only impeding your progress of ultimately getting back together with him. You both need to go your separate ways in order to break the emotional ties.
Don't prolong this step, as it will hurt your chances of getting back together in the future. You will also need to stop texting him, calling him, or dropping him little emails or messages on Facebook. Make a clean break. All of these sweet little gestures aren't helping you, and they give your ex the upper hand by telling him you're still hung up on him. He may take advantage of your emotional state if you give him that power, so revoke it. Take back your power and don't give him control over your emotions anymore.
When you fail to cut those emotional ties and continue contact with your ex, you are not allowing him to see what his life would be like without you in it. Why? Because you refuse to go away! How can he miss you when you're still right there under his nose, or on his Facebook page, or on his cell phone message? The fact is, he can't. You need to break the ties and give the boy a chance to face reality...without you. Trying to be his friend and being there for him can only backfire on you.
Withdraw Yourself From His Life
A great way to make your ex boyfriend chase you, is to make the break clean and not look back. This will be difficult, but it will also give you the upper hand. If you stick around for awhile after the break up , or remain in contact, he will begin to take your presence for granted. Same holds true for if you slowly fade away, he has gotten used to gradually lessening his contact with you and doesn't feel the loss as deeply. This is why you need to do it in one fell swoop.
By completely removing yourself from your ex's life, you are going to leave a giant void. There is no way he will not notice your absence. This will make him sit up and take notice. He will also likely begin to feel sad and have doubts as to why he let you go in the first place.
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, and many times this is the case. Your withdrawal from his life will make him feel lonely. Your abrupt departure from his life is the one true way to make him start to miss you and want to get back together with you again. Guilt trips, making him pity you, or attempting to seduce him are not effective ways to get him back.They might work temporarily, but you cannot make him stay with you if he doesn't want you.
Instead, by coming to terms with the break up, you are allowing your ex to open up to you. By knowing you've accepted his decision about breaking up and not fighting it and acting foolish, this will increase the chances that he will let his guard down and feel more comfortable approaching you again. Even if you've had a hard time and it took you awhile to reach this point, once you do you greatly increase your chances for future reconciliation.
Turning The Tables
You can get the ball in your court and have a little fun in the process by agreeing with your ex about the decision to split up. You might even go so far as to tell him he was right, it was probably for the best. At first, he'll find that pretty cool...then his ego will get wise to what you just said. Oh the wheels in his mind are spinning now! Did you just basically tell him you're happy about the breakup? Were you possibly planning on ending things with him if he hadn't beaten you to it? Well, why did you possibly want to break it off with him? He's probably pretty quiet at this point, which is a great time to walk way.
Right now, this guy has a million questions that no one but you can answer. Therefore, he will need to pursue you in order to get these answers. You have effectively made him chase you again. Even though it was his idea to call it quits, the fact that you're so cool about it will drive him crazy. He may even begin to get a bit jealous and wonder if you're now interested in someone else.
By using this reversal technique, you've got your ex's interest again. This is a great way to shake your guy's confidence and make him doubt ever letting you go. When you were easily accessible to him, he didn't see your worth. But now that you're so gracefully moving forward with your life, you hold great appeal to him once again, this is how you make him want you back.
Other Effective Ways To Reverse The Situation
There are also other effective methods to use to get your ex's attention again. Even if he's been ignoring you, you can once again get him to chase you like he did in the beginning. All that is necessary is to learn and employ the correct techniques for reconnection. One such technique is the no contact rule, get this right and you are well on your way to succeeding.
Wouldn't it be great if you could find out the truth about how he really feels about you first though? Well you actually can be reading the signs he still loves you. He will be giving off some pretty obvious as well as subtle clues right now. Decipher these and you will know what your chances are of getting him back.
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