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How to Move On From A Bad Breakup From Girlfriend

Did your girlfriend break up with you? Well, don't worry, because a lot of men have experienced the same thing. The fact is that girls initiate around three quarters of all breakups, while men generally account for less than a quarter of all failed relationships. What this ultimately means is that guys have to deal with break up more often than women do.

And to make matters worse, there is an implicit consensus in society that expects men to deal with breakups in a stoic manner. This is in contrast to the expectation that allows women to dissect every flaw and problem in their relationships, while men are expected to act like everything's fine.

The problem however, is that men do have emotions, and when they get dumped by their girlfriend, those emotions can become very intense. However, it's also important to consider how these emotions differ from those experienced by women.

The truth is that men value stable relationships more than women do. Men want relationships that can endure for a long time despite all sorts of problems. It gives them a sense of security and provides a feeling of accomplishment.

So if your girlfriend were to suddenly dump you, it's alright to feel like your world has collapsed. It's a natural emotion to a situation where your sense of stability has disappeared. What matters however, is that you are able to move on with your life.

In order to overcome the emotional problems caused by a breakup, it's important for you to know how to express yourself emotionally. Creative expression can take the form of writing music, writing articles/stories or any form of art. These activities can be quite therapeutic, and can help you overcome your emotional grief over the breakup more easily.

Once you have found an outlet for your emotions, your next task should be to put the past behind you. Any object that can remind you of your ex can trigger bouts of depression. As this is the case for most men, it's important that you get rid of your ex-girlfriend's personal effects as quickly as possible.

Also, you'll want to temporarily cut off all communications with your ex. If you owe each other money, or you have some of your things at her place, then it's important that you settle the problem as quickly as possible.

When you inform your ex that you don't want to talk to her for awhile, be sure to be emphatic about it. That means no calls, texts, facebook posts or emails. The absence of communication soon after a sensitive breakup is necessary for healing any emotional wounds that you may have.

Next, you will need to occupy your mind with physical activities that will help you forget about your ex. Sports, work or any activities that you used to enjoy before you met your girlfriend can help you cope with any emotional stress that you may be experiencing.

After a little amount of time, your feelings about the breakup should have dampened a bit, and you can go back to the dating scene again. And once you feel great about dating a new girl, you will be able to move on with your life.

Street Talk

nice article

  about 1 decade ago

sports and working out is definitely great! produces endorphin in your body. First hand experience ;)

  about 1 decade ago
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