When your ex suddenly decides to end your relationship without any warning, it feels like your entire world is crumbling down around you. It feels like you're being ripped in half, and it causes a huge mountain of negative emotions that feel like they're going to swallow you whole. Losing your relationship can make you feel like all of the hope has gone out of the world - and it can easily lead to depression, anxiety and self-doubt. What you need to realize, however, is that it's possible to get your relationship back - even in the midst of apparent hopelessness.

When you're faced with the end of a relationship and you want to take action, not all actions are created equally. There are a lot of potential mistakes to be made - and one mistake could be the straw that breaks the camel's back - and puts you back to square one or worse. If you continually make the wrong moves at the wrong times, you could wind up blowing your chance for reconciliation for good.

Speed is not of the essence when you're trying to rebuild a relationship - and one of the most common mistakes that people in your position make are trying to force the relationship back together too quickly. Every moment feels like torture - and your instincts are screaming that if you don't do something now, you'll miss out on your golden opportunity. In reality, however, nothing could be further from the truth. There is a time to move (and a list of proactive moves to make) but there's also a time to sit back and wait - it's not the right moment yet, and jumping the gun could mean that chance never comes.

Breaking Down the Breakup:

In order to have a fighting chance at putting your relationship back together, you'll need to understand why the two of you split up. That means understanding breakup fundamentals and moving things in a more positive direction. Your ex decided to hit the ground running and leave your relationship in the dust. Their rejection triggered a lot of natural instincts that you may not even realize you had. You want to fight for your relationship because it's valuable to you. No matter how hard you try, though, you cannot force your ex to change their mind - and the more you push it, the less likely you are to succeed.

If you first attempted to fight the breakup tooth and nail, you ended up with a predictable yet devastating result. It didn't work. You instantly went on the offensive, and you grabbed any positive memory that you could from the relationship in an effort to rub your ex's nose in it. That didn't end up any better. Your focus was on yourself - what you needed, what you wanted and how you felt. You probably didn't take a moment to think about where your ex was coming from - and that was your critical misstep. For whatever reason, they decided to ditch you - and your relationship as a whole. Something wasn't lining up with their game plan, so they decided to make a big move. That move, though, unfortunately left you behind.

Making the Change:

In order for your ex to even consider the possibility of getting back together with you, they'll have to want you. If you can make that happen in a positive and effective way, that's the only thing that you need to move forward. Not only can you move forward, but you can make huge strides in reclaiming your relationship and getting things back on track.

As hard as it is to swallow, your ex doesn't really want you right now. They don't see you as something that could potentially be lost - after all, they gave you up to begin with. While you're still the same person that you always were externally, internally it's a different story. They've thought your relationship through - and the sad reality is that they found it wanting in some aspect or another.

In order to get things moving in the right direction, you need to stop all of the behavior that they've started to associate with you and your breakup. Stop fighting them about everything. Stop putting up a struggle. Go against your instincts, if you must. Face it - your instincts aren't winning you any awards for the relationship of the year anyway. In order for your ex to see you as an attractive possibility again, you'll need to become the person that they fell in love with to begin with.

The beginning of your relationship seemed magical. Everything was so easy and it progressed so smoothly - it felt like you didn't even have to try. Your ex is missing that golden time of your former relationship, and right now they don't feel as if they can have that with you. You simply need to show them how wrong they are in order to get them to shift focus and get things started all over again.

Your ex most likely fell for you because of your charm, your sense of humor or your self-confidence. You were fun to be around, and you seemed to have all of your stuff together. In order to win your ex back, you need to revisit the person that you used to be. Own your charm again, and leave the depressed, mopey you of the present far behind you.

Finding Your Way Back Into Their Life:

If some serious time has passed since you and your ex were together, there are still methods that can be utilized to make positive and proactive moves towards rebuilding your romance again. You don't want to rush in and take a bunch of actions all at once. Start slow and then gradually start to move forward.

Your best bet is to come up with a concrete plan so you're not simply flying by the seat of your pants. You need to know what to do and when to do it - and having a plan is a critical and integral part of that overall process.

What’s Next?

Now that you understand a little bit about how texting can attract your ex, you have to start using other techniques that will increase their desire for you and make them see you as a potential partner again. First of all you need to avoid these break up mistakes. If you are doing any of these things then it will spell disaster for you and make your ex see you in a negative light.

There will be specific signs that your ex will be giving off about how they REALLY feel about you after the break up. Learn to spot these signs and use them to your advantage. There is no point in rushing in if your ex just isn't interested in you anymore.