You want to get back with your ex boyfriend. Before you make a single step forward, you have to reevaluate the situation that you're in. It's normal to be bitter, hurt, upset or disappointed that your relationship came to an unexpected end. If you project any type of emotion that is less than positive, your ex is going to pick up on it automatically.

You need to change your perspective and undergo a severe attitude adjustment. By desiring to get back together with your ex, you are saying to yourself and the world that you still love him - and that you appreciate the person he is - even though he broke up with you. If there has been any negativity on the part of your friends and family towards your ex, make sure it stops. It's not going to help you attain your ultimate goal, and it's only going to cause conflict in the interim.

Make Your Ex Boyfriend Notice A Difference In You

While inwardly you may not notice a lot of difference, you can bet that your ex-boyfriend will. Your change of heart and attitude is going to shine through everything you do or say and a woman who exhibits joy and self-confidence is overwhelmingly attractive to the opposite sex. In fact, that may be one of the many things that caught his attention when you first met. You're exuding confidence in a way that allows you to look towards the future without being overwhelmed or sinking into the past. After all, you're not trying to glue together the pieces of a broken relationship - you're simply making some changes to yourself and that's going to be the key that makes a difference.

Never Plead Or Beg Your Ex Boyfriend To Take You Back

You are probably clutching at straws right now and will do anything possible to make your ex boyfriend see sense. If nothing has worked until this point, begging him t o give it another chance certainly won't either. In fact it will only push him further away from you and reaffirm his decision to break up with you in the first place.

The last thing that you want is for your ex boyfriend to get back together with you out of a sense of duty or pity. How bad would that make you feel in the long run? You would be insecure that your boyfriend doesn't want to really be with you and that will cause problems in itself. Not to mention how it will affect your boyfriend. He will grow to resent you and there will be another break up down the line - this time a permanent one.

You want someone to be with you out of choice, because they love you and you make them happy. It might look like a long way off to you right now, or even impossible, but it can happen again if you know exactly what you are doing. Although your instincts are telling you to hold on to him and not let him go, this is the worst thing that you can be doing right now. Accept the break up and then let him go temporarily, this is the only way that he will miss you and value you again.

Let Him Think That He Might Lose You

Even though your ex ended your relationship, he may still have strong feelings for you. If he does, nothing will bring them up to the surface faster than allowing him to believe that he may lose you - especially to another guy. Otherwise the breakup is going to continue indefinitely. As long as he feels secure in the idea that he can have you if he wants you, there is no reason for him to reconsider. That means making him feel uncertain. Nothing feeds uncertainty or unease in the mind of your ex-boyfriend like continued confusion.

This is why you should never be sitting at home pining over him. He will know that he can have you back whenever he wants if you do this. You have to be smarter than that and go out and enjoy yourself. If he things that there is a chance that you are moving on before him, he will start to panic and make moves to not let you slip away for good. This is when you can get him back.

What To Do Now

You can reverse your break up if you follow the right steps and techniques. First of all you will have to make yourself aware of common break up mistakes that will push your ex boyfriend away. Avoid these if you can because they will make you look crazy and needy.

You should also be looking out for signs he still loves you if you want to know where you stand. There is no point chasing after an ex boyfriend who has already moved on. He will be exhibiting certain clues without even knowing it, so make sure that you look out for these.