As you sit there pondering over your ended relationship you just can't get it out of your mind that it is really not over. It is common after a breakup to feel that it should not have ended. You should however take a hard look at the relationship and examine the reasons why you split up in the first place.

If you find out the reason you truly want to get your ex back is to fill the void of loneliness and a sort of lost feeling you have, maybe this is not a salvageable relationship. However if you still have genuine feelings for your ex and are willing to work for the relationship then maybe you should try to get your ex back.

The first step in trying to get your ex back is to examine the real problems of the relationship. Obviously there were many good things about the relationship that do not need to be fixed. There were also flaws or cracks in the relationship and if you truly want to get your ex back it will be these flaws you need to work on.

One thing you do not want to do is to move too fast. You need to first take a break and get your thoughts together if you are going to try and get your ex back.

One way you can do this is by dating someone else. Now don't shake your head, this can be very useful. Think about it, dating does not necessarily mean it will turn into a full fledged romance. Also you may find out that the new person in your life may be your soul mate. It will definitely give you some time to reflect on your relationship and whether or not you still want to get your ex back.

Also dating someone else may help you see what went wrong in the relationship. It is really hard to mend something if you don’t know what is wrong in the first place. It may prevent you from repeating the same mistakes. Sometimes being away from the problem gives you a clearer view as to what was really happening.

Once you have figured out that you want to try and get your ex back you then need to go very slow. This is very important since you are dealing with emotions which can be easily hurt.

Things are not going to be the same so do not rush in expecting to fall back into the old patterns before the breakup. Really if that happens then you are probably just headed for another breakup. As you try to get your ex back think of this as a new beginning, a fresh start.