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Make Your Ex Boyfriend Pursue You - How It Is Done
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Make Your Ex Boyfriend Pursue You  -  How It Is Done

A rule of thumb for females, a fundamental knowledge of the male consciousness is required in order for them to have a second chance with their ex-boyfriend. Men are from mars and women are from Venus but in a relationship, both genders actually love the spark that starts it all, the flame that maintains the love and of course the chase, keeps the connection exciting.

When a romantic relationship commences, everything will seem great. As a woman looking back, you will come to realize that this was the case with you and your former boyfriend. The thrill and enthusiasm you and your man had is due to the fact that you were both pursuing each other. All good things come to an end though and this happens when you have captured each other's hearts and unfortunately, the fun might end there.

Routine takes the place of the chase once it has stopped which is not at all negative however, admit it or not, it is not as exhilarating as the time you pursued each other. Once you realize that you will be spending more time together, the fact of the matter is, the exciting feeling disappears. Love between couples does not assure excitement forever, it is inevitable to get uninterested and eventually you will both find many things ordinary and feel irritated by certain habits or idiosyncrasies.

If you think long and hard, you will realize that during the time you were pursuing each other, none of these things carried weight.

Getting back your former boyfriend is possible and you can do so by making him pursue you again even if he was the one who called it quits. Going back to the time in your relationship when you were both thrilled and excited is attainable, all it takes is for you to create a situation of unexpected curiosity in him yet be a bit inhibited; this setting clearly establishes the chase once again. Making your presence known to him but being mysterious at the same time will make him more interested and eventually your man will want more which translates into him thinking of you, keeping in touch with you as much as possible and eventually longing for you.

Generally, feelings for someone do not disappear instantly; they just tend to be concealed by many factors in life but first and foremost of the choice to break up with you. If your former flame is still available and you are able to bring out those loving emotions he had for you, then there is a great possibility that he can open his heart to you once again.

Keep in mind that pursuing your former love is not the way to go. More like reverse psychology, your ex lover will have a change of heart when you stop bothering him with frequent phone calls or text messages and even e-mails and personal messages online among other methods. He will be the one who will start pursuing you when he realizes that you suddenly refrain from keeping in touch with him.

Due to your abrupt avoidance of him, as days pass him by, many questions will come to his mind, even the idea that you have probably moved on with your life or that you have possibly found a new love interest. It may be likely that your ex is not yet willing to get back with you right now but it will be a good start for him to know of your current situation and that he must do something to find out. It will be helpful for you to keep friends or family members in the loop of your plan to lure him back so they won't spoil your set up. Aside from making your former flame think long and hard about what is happening, it is of course advantageous to avoid places where you might bump into him.

Another good thing about your so called disappearance is hurting his ego because if you are not pursuing him anymore, he is going to realize that he is not in control after all.

As time goes by, your ex-boyfriend will be more than curious and will then exert effort to look for you. He will hound your friends in order to get information about you but since your friends are aware of your plan, they will inform him that they are oblivious of your whereabouts. Expect a simple personal message online or even a text message hoping to engage you in a conversation. You know better of course and he won't get a reply from you even if deep inside, you would talk to him in a heartbeat. At this moment, your objective is for your ex-boyfriend to give you a call. When he finally calls you, you can deal with the situation better and with confidence.

It takes the right strategy and the right timing to lure your ex boyfriend into a new relationship with you. Desperation is not a key element in succeeding because it will just drive you to chase your former love which might push your man away instead of attracting him. Acceptance then planning your move for him to pursue you is a better idea.

What to Do Next

Keep in mind that you should contact your ex in the proper way as a method of starting the chase. Also, a no contact rule is essential in getting your former lover back in your arms. In addition, giving him space allows him to heal and have the willingness to have a conversation with you. Reconciliation is within reach if you plan to get back together the right way. Making him want you is your ultimate goal.

There may be some signs he still loves you, look out for these so that you know that you are on the right path. If he is displaying any of these signals, then you have the green light to proceed! Good luck.

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