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Making My Ex Miss Me - How To Do It
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Making My Ex Miss Me  -  How To Do It

You can't help but smile when you think of the initial stages of your relationship. You always held hands - even if you were just walking to the mailbox. You couldn't get enough of each other, and every waking moment was spent imagining the next time you got to see each other. Everything seemed to be flying high, and you couldn't imagine a time when you didn't feel as happy as you did then. No other option seemed to be possible; unfortunately you realized that you were wrong.

Your ex threw a monkey wrench into all of your plans for the future when they decided to break things off. You're left wondering where things went wrong, and when you lost the magic that you believed defined you as a couple. Instead of wandering around in endless wonder forever, make a progressive step forward. Instead of simply wishing them back, make it happen by doing something that they probably never saw coming.

The Fundamental Aspect of Missing Someone

How many times have you thought about getting back together with your ex since the two of you broke up? Now think about how much time you've spent imagining what your ex is thinking or wanting right now. It's likely that the two are highly unbalanced. That doesn't make you selfish, it makes you human. Overlooking the desires of an ex are normal, given the circumstances, but taking the time to weigh your options can give you a vital piece of the puzzle that often remains missing indefinitely.

The fact of the matter is that how you feel right now isn't going get you very far to earn a second shot at being together. The only thing that's going to matter is how they see you and your previous time together. Not all of their thoughts are negative. They probably share some common, positive memories. When they focus on those and not the reasons behind the breakup, they'll start missing you - and that's the important part of the process. You don't stand a chance until they do.

Going Past the Memories - Remembering the Way YOU Were

You may be in the initial stages of recognizing some things that may have gone awry throughout the course of your relationship. Believe it or not, this is a GOOD THING. Now you have a starting point, and a goal to work towards that you CAN control. This rests on you, and takes the pressure off of what you want your ex to be feeling.

How has your personality changed between when you first started dating your ex and now? For one, the breakup did some serious damage to your emotional state and your self-confidence. While it may not be as easy as simply taking a deep breath and putting it behind you, overcoming that obstacle is a key factor in your plan - and one that you can choose to conquer.

Turn Your Relationship in a Full Circle

When your relationship first began, you were on cloud nine. When your ex broke up with you, you were in the pit of despair. You've run the gambit throughout the process, and so has your plan. Things have gone 180 degrees, and now it's time to turn it around again. It's not an impossible dream - it's a potential reality. Now you can choose to take the control back into your own hands and drive your plan home.

Saying that you've accomplished a lot throughout this time is an understatement of epic proportions but the fact is that all of the effort in the world won't mean much if you aren't able to put the rest of your plan into motion. That means using your head instead of just acting with your heart. Getting back together with an ex is like balancing on a ledge - sometimes you have to risk falling to reach the top. You have to be strong but not pushy. You want to express confidence but not arrogance. You want to say the right things at the right times. All these things work together to create a whole picture, and now you're on the pinnacle of success.

That's why your best option is to utilize your plan wisely instead of just jumping into the fire while hoping for the best. You've experienced a lot and risked more. Don't throw your chance away by acting impulsively. Calm confidence is your best bet when moving forward, even though your insides may be shaky at best.

What To Do Next

Gaining an insight into why you were dumped is an important first step on the road to reconciliation. It is essential that you learn from past mistakes. Getting your ex back is much simpler if you arm yourself with the knowledge needed to do so.

Another thing that you should strive to gain knowledge about is managing contact with your ex. Too many people jump the gun and attempt to contact an ex before the dust has time to settle after a breakup. Timing is key.

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