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Making Your Ex Miss You To Win Them Back
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Making Your Ex Miss You To Win Them Back

Overcoming a breakup is not an easy process for anyone. It's difficult to try to reconcile the past that you remember with your ex with the present reality. Facing the end of a romance is a difficult road to walk on - especially when you can't think of anything except for the way things used to be.

Unfortunately, time never moves backwards, no matter how much you may want it to. It's impossible to go back in time to fix things before they started to go south. That doesn't mean that it's impossible to correct past mistakes and make them better for the future. It takes a lot of hard work and patience, but it's something that you can put into play if you're determined to turn things around and make a stand for your dreams for the future.

Missing You is the Missing Key to the Puzzle:

It's easy to take your ex's thoughts and feelings for granted. Why wouldn't you? You're so emotionally overshot with the breakup that their side of things rarely comes into play. It's not enough to find a way to tell them that you've been thinking of them and you want to get back to the way things used to be. The way things used to be is a thing of the past, now.

The fact of the matter is that until your ex realizes that they miss you, you don't really have a shot of winning them back. No amount of talking or convincing is going to be effective in changing their minds right now. For now, their minds are made up - and the scales are tilted against you. Avoiding contact with them for a brief amount of time is a good place to start, but truthfully it's not going to be quite enough. You need to have the edge on your side, and in order to do something else to turn the tables and put the shoe on the other foot.

Getting Back to the Past

What drew your ex to you when you first started dating? Were you confident and self-assured? Did you have a quick sense of humor that livened up even the most boring events? It's not enough to simply try to fake your way to reconciliation. You really need to start examining the past in a way that's more important than simple wishful thinking.

When you're interested in attracting a partner, you make sure that they only see the good side of you. You hide the things that are best left avoided - like the fact that you have a week's worth of dirty dishes piled up in the sink or that you use the backseat of your car like a giant trash receptacle. You highlighted the best aspects of yourself and made sure that that was remembered over everything else.

Now is the time to get back to the basics. Understandably, you're in no position to win any personality of the year awards. You're broken and crushed. If you're depressed, no one could blame you. Eventually, these negative emotions will need to be overcome if you want to become the person that your ex initially fell for. The best thing to do when faced with an emotional crisis is used in support groups around the world. Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. If you put your best foot forward often enough, it will become like second-nature, and it will be easier to feel genuinely good about the person you're becoming the more you step out of your comfort zone and make the ideal you more and more of a reality.

Take Things Back to the Beginning

No matter how long it has been since the breakup shook your entire reality, it is possible to bring it back. Not only can you get back to the way things were, you can make them better than the past and bring a positive new future to both you and your ex.

Timing is an inevitable part of the process. Sometimes it's best to back off and give your ex some breathing room without having to look over their shoulder to see how closely you're following behind. Sometimes it takes a move forward, which puts you in the limelight and shines a spotlight on all of your positive growth. You have to know what to say - and what's better left unsaid. You have to know when to act, and when it's best to remain in the shadows. Most importantly of all, it's important to know when to lay on the charm - and when to simply agree to what they're saying and not put up a fight.

The last thing you want to do is just sit on your hands and wait for things to magically change on their own. If you do that, you might as well kiss your relationship (and your ex) goodbye. There are no magic solutions to fixing a broken relationship. It's only through patience, dedication and carefully crafted planning that you can achieve your end-goal and take steps to regain your broken relationship. Instead of just hoping for a magic set of words to make everything better, make sure to take your time. Don't go with the flow - make the flow go with you. Most importantly, make sure you're prepared to act when the time proves itself to be right.

What To Do Next

Being dumped is one of the most harrowing things that can happen in a persons life. This may seem easier said than done but if you are serious about winning your ex back the breakup is something that you will have to come to terms with.

One of the most important things that you should do at this time is learn how to avoid breakup mistakes. In the aftermath of an unwanted breakup a lot of people hinder their chances of getting back together by making easily avoidable mistakes. Don't be one of those people.

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