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My Ex Doesn't Want To Get Back Together But Still Loves Me
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My Ex Doesn\'t Want To Get Back Together But Still Loves Me

This is a predicament that some people will find themselves in. After a breakup it is often the case that the dumper will openly confess that they still love the person that they just dumped. Your ex still loves you but doesn't want to be with you in a relationship. You are very confused, you're wondering what in the world is going on. How can someone be in love and at the same time not want to be with the person that they love? That is the question that you must be asking yourself right now.

The answer to that question is not as complex as you may assume. Your ex boyfriend/girlfriend is playing the stalling game, they want to keep you waiting in the wings while they go off and do whatever it is they want to do. Your ex wants to be safe in the knowledge that they can pick up where they left off with you. It could be possible that your ex has deep seated commitment issues, and as a result they are terrified of being in a serious relationship. However, it is more likely that they have a combination of milder commitment issues and a desire to "play the field".

The Reasons Why Your Ex Keeps Telling You That They Love You

True love existed between you and your ex during the relationship, but something happened that made your ex want to end that relationship. That something was your ex getting cold feet. Maybe your ex felt that they were trapped by the relationship, they wanted to experience more before they settled down with one person. Maybe your ex misses being a singleton and wants a "no strings attached" life. Whatever your ex's reason for ending the relationship may be, the simple fact of the matter is that they want to keep you on hold while they make their mind up.

Your ex tells you that they still love you because they don't want to risk completely losing you. Your ex is in a contradictory frame of mind, on the one hand they love and want you, but on the other they want to be free to do whatever takes their fancy. You are the one that ends up suffering the most, you still love your ex, and your ex says that they still love you, but you have no idea what to do next. Should you quit?..or should you try to restart the relationship?. If you still love your ex you should definitely not give up on them. That said, you should not be a doormat. Now is the time to reflect on the situation and plan your next course of action.

Getting The Relationship Back On Track - The Best Way

The first thing you should do is make it clear to your ex that you won't be made a fool of, tell them that you need a bit of time to reflect on the situation that they created. If you don't do this your ex will keep you sniffing around like a dog waiting to be fed. Every time that they think that you are slipping away they will throw you a bone. Don't be a fool, put an end to that game by taking power back into your own hands.

How do you take power back? Well, the simple answer to that is - cut all contact. That may sound like a drastic thing to do, but you have to do it to bring your ex back to reality and make them recognize the error of their ways. A clear message has to be sent, your ex can't be allowed to keep you hanging on while they go off and play the field.

When your ex starts to realize that you are serious they will go into panic mode, they were counting on you being at their beck and call while they pleased themselves. Now reality will have sunk in, your ex will regret putting you in the situation that they did and reevaluate the situation. If your ex still loves you the breakup that your they initiated will now start to seem like a very bad idea.

This is the moment of truth. if your ex still has feelings for you they will make every effort possible to GET YOU BACK. If they were lying when they said that they loved you at least you will now have closure, you will be able to move on and find someone that truly does love you. Be strong and hold your head high, you deserve respect.

What Do I Do Now?

Being dumped is difficult. The first thing that you will have to gain knowledge about is breakup mistakes. Most people in your situation scupper their chances of getting a relationship back on track by making a series of mistakes after the breakup. Knowing how to avoid these common mistakes is half the battle.

The second thing that you will need to learn about is the no contact rule. Knowing how the no contact rule works is of paramount importance. I can't stress enough how powerful it is. When applied correctly, the no contact rule has a proven success rate.


Street Talk

My wife has accused me of a lot of things in our years of marriage some of those accusation were true and i admitted to doing them but am to much in love with her to give her an s.t.d. She was down to end our marriage cos she believed i gave an s.t.d. She had a good reason to believe that cos of late i haven't been the best husband. Thank God that s@@t was clarified in the Trisha show that i was not responsible for the s.t.d. She was in love with me as i was in love with her. Yes i will admit to the fact that i f$$ked up so many times but we always got around our problem i don't mean avoid it i mean we fixed our problem like real adults but my stepson always thought i was not good enough for his mother. We never really got along. I agreed to do the Trisha show thinking maybe it will help fix our marriage but it made it even worse. After the show she was more down to live me. She asked that i move out of the house filled for a divorce and all. I could not let her go just like that.I got desperate and i panicking so i used a spell to get her back i know most people don't believe and you may call me crazy but it worked for me. I found a comment on internet about this spell caster Metodo Ell. The comment said he doesn't do spell for those who are not meant to be together. All i needed for the spell were materials to get the spell done. I could not get them so i paid him to get them for me since he is the expect in this stuff. As far as i can tell that s$$t worked cos all my marriage problem just fall off my shoulder and my stepson is cool with me now. If you want to get him to cast a spell for you contact him here with this email address metodoacamufortress@yahoo. com he could also do a direct spell maybe it meant cost a little more than mine i don't know him only can tell you that.

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  about 6 years ago
Braxton1  

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  about 7 years ago
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