When your ex girlfriend leaves you for someone else, it is an extremely painful situation to be in. And one thing that is probably first in your mind right now is: How do I get her back? Is there even any HOPE that she will ever want to be with me again?

The answer is yes, there is hope. The key is to understand this simple nugget of wisdom that will enable you to heal your relationship with your ex girlfriend. Here it is:

The best way to fix a relationship is by focusing on the positive. This is where so many people fail at successfully reuniting with an ex. They're so caught up in the destructive thoughts, their differences, and what drives them apart instead of what brings them together.

If there is one key to a good relationship, it is PASSION.

If you truly love someone, you feel passion for that person. You WANT to be with them. You love spending time with them because they make you feel like you're on fire.

Do you feel that way with your ex girlfriend? If the answer is yes, then chances are, she feels that way about you, too.

So when you have PASSION in your relationship, all the other things that led to your breakup in the first place disappear. Sure, you'll still have problems down the road - every couple does. But those problems will seem a lot less important when you focus on making the passion and connection in your relationship the most important part of it.

The short answer is: YES there is hope to get your ex girlfriend back. It makes no difference who she is seeing right now. In fact, forgetting about the fact that she is with another guy at all will go a long way towards getting her interested in you again after a breakup, because you will be focused on HER, not on the fact that she is with someone else. And pretty soon, you will be her "new guy" again.

And here's one other tip: a small, intimate date where you talk about your shared PASSIONS, whatever they may be, will go miles towards healing your relationship. Sitting down and rehashing all the things that led to the affair, or the breakup, or whatever... that will drive you farther apart.

So if you remember nothing else, remember that you absolutely must focus on passion in your relationship, and increasing the spark between you. Figure out topics that you both love discussing - and it doesn't matter whether or not you agree. (In fact, if you don't agree on some topics, that will lead to intelligent, stimulating discussions... which lead to PASSION in the bedroom.)