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Kind of a catchy title huh? Now there are plenty of people out there who are considering re-uniting with their ex but this is a process that you both have to be careful with. Now that you have started talking with one another again this is a time to take things nice and easy.

For instance, you agree to meet each other for a cup of coffee at the local Starbucks, you put a kind of time limit on it say 20 to 30 minutes. To start with that’s about right, you don’t want rush back into anything just yet. So whatever you do, don’t let your 20 or 30 minute meeting turn into a two hour “oh baby I just got to have you back” marathon.

In first place that would probably send them running for cover, remember that everything is still fresh in both of your minds and hearts. I wouldn’t spend a lot of time dwelling on the reasons for the break-up but rather just have a friendly conversation and avoid any subject that might lead to a confrontation.

It’s important to avoid premature reconciliation because you don’t want to fall back into the behavior patterns that led to your break-up, the whole object here is to see if what you really want is to be re-united, right? So talk about the good times that you two shared, places that you went together, just start getting to know each other again.

Under no circumstances start pushing the subject of reconciliation at this time, but instead maybe start establishing a mindset of being willing to start seeing each other again. DO NOT go jump in bed with each other…that will probably end up back firing on the both of you, remember you are trying to rekindle your relationship and there are still things to be worked out, just not at this time.

Once you have started seeing each other is when you can start addressing the issues that led to the break-up. Both of you must be willing to be open minded and truthful about your problems. If the situation calls for an apology, by all means, do it. And if you apologize, be sincere about it. Be willing to forgive each other as well, if you can’t forgive one another then your relationship reconciliation is going to have a difficult time surviving.

So just take things nice and easy and whatever you do, avoid premature reconciliation.


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