If you have just recently broken up with your ex girlfriend, you are most likely going through a period of emotional and mental stress. That's just the way it is. If the relationship you were just in meant anything to either of you, then you are both feeling the after effects of separation anxiety and maybe a bit of depression. If you are feeling hopeless and lost, this is completely normal. It is totally normal to have a bit of nostalgia for the past as well, but trust me, time heals all wounds.

If you are seriously considering an attempt to win your ex back, WAIT. Seriously, if it has only been a few days since you have broken up, sleep on it for a week. Chances are after you've taken some time to examine your options, you'll be much better equipped to handle the situation in front of you. Try to clear your mind, do some fun things that interest you, and try not to think about your ex, if at all possible.

The reason for doing this, is that after the initial breakup, we all get something called separation anxiety. It is important that you are not acting to get your ex back out of pure loneliness or because you are scared of change. After waiting a period of time without thinking about our significant other, it becomes much easier to figure out if we are acting on behalf of our loneliness, or because we actually feel that the breakup was illegitimate.

If after you've given yourself some time to think about your options and you've decided that your life really is better with your ex, send her a letter or give her a call and tell her how you feel. It really is as simple as that. If you've given her some space after your breakup to think about your options, it's likely given her the same opportunity to think about hers. If she's decided that she misses you (which she probably does), a simple and personal note telling her how you feel can ignite the same feelings in her.

Remember, when writing your note, do not beg. You do not want to make yourself seem desperate or lonely. You want to appear confident in how you feel and make sure that she knows you are making this decision with a clear head. Tell her you miss her and likely she will feel the same. For the next step in rekindling your romance, there are many other blog posts and even expert dating programs out there.