Have you suffered a breakup, but now your ex girlfriend is texting and calling you again, requesting to meet? This is a crucial stage in the breakup process, and one that many guys screw up horribly.

Often a guy will start to make headway with getting back his ex girlfriend. He'll set up a date over coffee and the first few minutes will go well... and then BAM, next thing you know she is out the door again.

Why does this happen so often? It's because many people make the mistake of premature reconciliation. Too often, we want to get back with an ex lover so badly that we do everything we can to get back together RIGHT AWAY.

So let's picture this: the two of you meet for coffee. You talk for a bit. She suggests getting back together first, and you immediately think... YES! This is what I was waiting for!

But this is the wrong response. This will send her the message that you are too attached to the outcome of getting her back right away, and getting back into a relationship with her, when your focus should be on simply reconnecting. When you take away expectations, the pressure on the relationship suddenly disappears completely.

If you actually treat the situation with a little more caution, and something along the lines of, "well, I think we should take it slow instead", you'll have LOADS more success in the long run. Too often guys fall into the trap of sleeping with an ex girlfriend too soon.

That's natural, because we want it, of course. But premature reconciliation is much like another term that starts with "premature", and ends just about as badly. There is never a reason to rush into getting back together; it's best to simply enjoy the process and go slow as much as you can.

So remember: when you're trying to win her back, it's better to take things slow. Meeting for coffee is fine, but screaming with joy the second she suggests you get back together is often a bad idea. It will in many cases turn her off, as well.

Remember: the best things in life are those we have to work for, a little bit. Your relationship with your ex girlfriend is much the same, so treat it that way and you will find yourselves heading down a more passionate, exciting journey than you would if you simply got back together again right away.

Basically, it is possible to get her back, if you go about it carefully. Just exercise some caution and you'll be better off.