When you are in a relationship for awhile and then you go through a break up you could very well be preoccupied as to how to get your ex back. It can seem like an overwhelming task as you try and think of different things you can do to get your ex back.

Like all problems though when you first look at them and they seem so challenging your first step is to make them less challenging. And how you ask does one do that? I am glad you asked. You take this one big problem and you break it down into several smaller problems. By doing this you could very well be able to get your ex back.

When you reflect back on your relationship what were the little things you did for your ex that made him smile? What was it that the two of you had at one time that made your time together so special? If it is possible you somehow need to remind him of those special times you had together.

You are going to have to find ways to stay in contact with your ex without being overbearing and pushy. You did share a lot together when you were together such as mutual friends. Therefore if some of your friends are getting together and you know your ex is going to be there then you could also go. However when you are there do not focus on your ex. Mingle with your friends. Any conversation with your ex should be kept chatty and light. You just need to remind him what used to be, not swoop in and grab him.

If during your relationship you depended on him for help with something you could maybe ask him for help with whatever it was. Again do not make a pest of yourself but just let him know that you are still comfortable around him even though you are broke up. Keeping contact with him may help get your ex back. These subtle reminders of you may make him rethink the break up and make him start to miss you.

Somehow if you can you are going to have to accidentally run into your boyfriend. These unplanned meetings will basically be for him to see you and keep you in his thoughts. Seeing you out and about will show him how mature you are about the break up. He might see another side of you he was not aware of. This might be enough to pique his interest and want you back. One of the best ways to get your ex back is to let him think it was all his idea.