Yes, you will need to truly answer this question; Are you in love? It is almost always certain that break ups are painful where you are in love with your boyfriend. If you do not truly love him, then you may not feel anything. But if you love him then, the situation becomes quite distressful and you begin to worry how you can go through this pain with ease.

There are quite a number of effective ways that you can truly get an ex boyfriend back without breaking an arm or losing your face. However, be sure you really love your ex boyfriend so that you just do not waste your precious time over nothing.

To begin with, don’t go chasing him or pestering him with incessant telephone calls and text messages. He may just not be in the mood to listen to you especially if the problem was painful to him. So give him some period of quite so that he can also think things out.

Thus, you should not be overly worried or distressed if he doesn’t call you right away or even for a week. In the second week, call him but make it casual. In other words do not fall over him begging him to come back to you. But make it short; just five to ten minutes conversation will do.

Remember, if you truly love him, then making it up will surely make you happy and worthwhile. In that case you may consider more significant changes.

If you are still in love after this amount of time, you need to consider making more fundamental changes.

For instance, do you need a new makeup? May be a new hairstyle or new clothes will attract him back? Perhaps you may need to lose a few pounds?

Again, you would have to think of some of your personality traits. May be some of these traits drove him away in the first place. Are you the nagging type? Are you always hanging around him and thereby crowding him? Whatever, just carefully get over some of these traits with a view to making changes.

After identifying these shortcomings, take immediate steps to change them. It has to be gradual otherwise the changes may not last the test of time. In any case be assured that if he truly loves you the break up will not last.

Having said all these, it will do you a lot of good to be prepared to move on should your ex boyfriend choose not to respond to your attempts. After all .if you attracted him in the first place, you will easily attract other guys. In fact, now that you have carefully made conscious changes to your personality and physical attributes, it will not be so difficult to get an even better guy who will appreciate your worth.

During this time, make effort to really know what you really want in him. What is it that turns you on; what makes you happy. What can you live with over time without becoming downcast or sad? Are you only attracted by handsome looks without substance? You need to find out what you really want.

In addition, do not relent in getting involved in events or activities that will make your life more meaningful and qualitative. You can hook up with your old girlfriends again. You can also take up some classed in areas of interest or even resume attending church service.

Whatever you do, know that break ups always happen. What is important is how you handle them without unduly allowing yourself to be wounded. Just move on to better things.