Have you been talking to your ex about getting back together and the message hasn't got through? Well you may want to consider going back to basics and write a letter. No,no not a text. And even more no.no, not a Facebook message! A proper letter written on nice writing paper and sent in a matching envelope through the mail.

There are several reasons that you may want to try this old fashioned approach. One advantage to a letter is that you can sit down and really think about what to write. Don't rush this. Sit down cool and calm and think about what is most important to say to your ex right now. This process is good in itself because it will help you clarify your feelings. It's important to get clear about what you feel and what you want the outcome of your letter to be.

You may have been keeping in touch in other ways. Maybe you've said things you now regret. maybe you have apologies to make or issues to clear. A well thought out letter is good for addressing any of the above. With well chosen words now you can right some earlier wrongs. One of the great things about writng a letter is that you can't get drawn in to saying something in the heat of the moment. that's why it's important to take your time and compose what you want to say carefully.

This is not a time for going over old ground in detail. Try and keep your tone upbeat and complimentary to your ex. It's not a vehicle for blame or recriminations. Remember you are trying to make things better between you and not prove that you are right. One advantage of sending a letter is that your ex can read and reread a letter at their leisure without any pressure from you. that is a contrast from say talking on the phone.

Of course not everyone will respond to a letter the same way. You will need to use your knowledge of your ex and your own judgement about the probability that you'll get a good response. Some people will value highly that you have taken the time to compose a thoughtful letter and will receive it well. For some people it may be thought of as tryng too hard or over the top. My advice is to at least consider writing a letter. You will then be able to rest in the knowledge that you have given it your best shot. If you have opened your heart and put yoursef in the process it's most likely that both you and your ex will benefit from you having extended yourself that way.