The relationship has ended, but you still miss him and want him back. You may find yourself picking up the phone to call or text him almost every day, hoping he will change his mind and come back to you - and you will have been disappointed not to get a reply. Well, the first thing you can do to rekindle his interest is to disappear from his life for a while. Stop calling, don't send any more text messages or emails. Let him realise that he misses you as much as you miss him.

Did you have any hobbies before you met him, that you later abandoned due to lack of time or energy? Go back to doing things that you love, work towards those goals that you set but never reached. This is what he will have found attractive about you before, your independence and determination, and he will continue to find it attractive now. If you are both in contact with the same group of friends, he will hear about what you are doing and is likely to be impressed. Be the woman he fell in love with first time round, but a little older and a little wiser, and you may well find that he picks up the phone to call you.

You will also need to think about the causes of the break-up. Were the two of you always arguing, or was it a case of the spark just faded? If it was a result of your behaviour towards each other, then you may be able to do something about this. Think carefully, did you used to nag him, perhaps to help around the house or to pay more attention to you? This often plays a major part in the breakdown of relationships, but you will be able to change this.

So, if you should happen to run into him in person, what should you do? The first, and most important thing, is to smile. Show him what he's missing - everyone looks much more attractive when smiling. Be polite, but don't feel the need to get into a long conversation. You're a busy woman with places to go and things to do, so once he's interested in continuing the conversation, make your excuses and leave. If he wants to see you again, he will let you know that he would like to get back together.

Once he does get in contact with you, it's fine to call him and reply to his texts, but make sure you don't come across as desperate to get back together. Be a friend to him first. Let him pursue you; if he's interested, he will definitely make the effort.