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Why Being Nice Will Drive Her Away – Avoid This To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
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The word “nice” typically means “wimpy”. There's a reason the saying that nice guys finish last exists, and that is because they typically do. Nice translates to “I'll do whatever you want” in the attempt to keep your girlfriend's affections, but letting her call the shots on everything is not what she wants, at all.

In reality, girls want a guy who stands up for himself, expresses his wants and needs, and isn't afraid to make those needs known. If she stops having sex with you, it isn't because you're ugly, or even because there's some other guy she likes more. It's because you are not being assertive enough about your needs.

The reason you must be assertive in a relationship is that it is the only way to maintain the “spark” which is necessary for a successful, healthy, and sexual bond. You express your needs, your girlfriend expresses hers, and together you work towards common goals and getting what you want from each other.

I guarantee you that if you learn to be assertive (not aggressive, and not passive, as in, “nice”) in a relationship, you will not have to deal with the problem of your girlfriend leaving you unless it is mutual. Simply put, she will lose the desire to break up if you can follow the rules of being assertive about your needs. How do you do this?

First, figure out what you want in a woman. This could include attractiveness (a woman who takes care of herself is attractive, without a doubt), personality, similar interests (you'll have an easier time with the sexual spark in your relationship if you share common interests), and her character (kindness, for example). Once you come up with your own list of what you want in your relationship, you will be prepared to assert these needs to her. Remember that a relationship is something that takes effort from both parties, and you must be invested in the process of making it better in order to keep both you and your girlfriend happy.

How does this help you get her back? Well, think of it this way: to get your ex girlfriend back, you have to be attractive to her. There are specific ways to increase your level of attractiveness in your ex girlfriend's mind when you understand female psychology a bit more (note, it's not as complicated as you might think). There is one specific key, however, which is vital in getting your ex girlfriend back and understanding how she thinks.


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