Restarting a relationship can be a very arduous task, especially for those who are trying to do so without first preparing. A lot of people tend to fall at the first hurdle and then quit altogether. The fact is, if you take the time to prepare and gain the knowledge needed to win your ex back you will see the result that you desire. Do not give up before you have even started, nothing worth having is easy to get.

You may be thinking that your ex's feelings and love for you ended the day they decided to break up with you. However, the reality is that is rarely the case. Your ex may have been unsatisfied with the way the relationship was progressing, but this does not mean that they no longer have feelings for you. In the vast majority of breakups both parties will retain feelings for each other well past the breakup date.

Feelings do not evaporate into thin air. Even if the breakup was a messy one where cheating was the cause for separation your ex will still have feelings for you. Love is like a magnesium fire, it is extremely hard to extinguish. The flames may have died down but the embers still glow. You can make the flames rise again if you put in the effort.

Your relationship consisted of far more than the reasons for the breakup. If you take stock of it you will find that the good moments far outweigh the bad. Even simple things can translate into the most cherished memories. A simple moment such as looked into the eyes of the person that you love just before sunset is probably worth more to you than all the gifts you received.

Five Signs That Your Ex Still Has Feelings For You

Does your ex still have feelings for you? Here are some signs -

1, Your ex asks your friends/family how you are doing. In most cases if a person does not care about the other, they will never ask anyone about them.

2, Your ex has "that look". Communication goes way beyond words, body language and they way someone looks at you are a great insight into how they feel about you.

3, Random messages. If you get short random messages saying things like "hey, how are you?" etc then this is a very positive sign that your ex still has feelings for you.

4, Your ex is still single and makes a point of letting you know that they are still single.

5, Your ex keeps showing up in the same social venues. Sometimes this can be put down to coincidence but if it happens on a regular basis then you can be sure that it is not.

The above are just a few of the signs that would indicate that your ex still has feelings for you there are many more besides.

Putting Your Relationship Back On Track

In order to put your relationship back on track again you will have to make your ex remember the good times. The trauma of the breakup may have pushed those memories to the back of his/her mind, but they can be brought back to light again. When your ex starts to remember the good times they will see the breakup from a different perspective.

You should use the good memories that you both share to your advantage. That said, don't make what you are doing too obvious because your ex will think that you have an anterior motive. Being subtle is very important, you have to make your ex think that they are coming to their own conclusions. If you push too hard then you will spook your ex and push them further away.

Learning the techniques needed to refresh your ex's memory is extremely important. There is a right way to do it and a wrong way. When you get it right the end result will speak for itself - your ex will want you back. If you dive in head first without acquiring the necessary knowledge then the result will be the opposite of what you desire.

Winning your ex back is a step by step process. Every step that you take will bring you closer to your goal. What you need to do now is motivate yourself to get the job done - that is the first, and in my view, the most important step. When you are motivated the next step is acquiring the knowledge that you will need to complete the task.

What Do I Do Now?

It is always a good idea to learn from the mistakes that other people in your situation make. Something that should be on the top of your to do list is learning how to avoid breakup mistakes. Most people approach an unwanted breakup from entirely the wrong angle and destroy their chances of getting their ex back. You don't want to be one of those people.

Another thing that is a must is getting an insight into why you were dumped. This knowledge will make the bigger picture apparent, give you a better perspective of your current situation, and prevent you from making the same mistakes again.