Winning back your man takes patience and time, it is not an overnight think like the stuff based in fairy-tales or Hollywood movies. You are going to go on a journey, but it is an exciting and enlightening one. You will learn things about him that you never knew and then be able to use this information to your advantage in winning your man back. You will also learn a lot about yourself and why you are feeling and acting the way that you do. With the right advice at your fingertips, you CAN win back your man with flair, confidence and poise. A big aspect of this is male psychology and using it against him. So let's take a closer look at this.

No Contact With Your Ex

Your first phase after the break up is to distance yourself from him as much as possible. If you have to work together or live close by this will obviously be difficult. Try to avoid him whenever possible or keep conversation to a minimum (without being rude of course). You must not engage in any online contact either - this still counts and will be seen by your ex as a desperate way of trying to keep him in your life. You do not want to come off as desperate or look as if you are not handling the break up.

This is why distance and no contact are invaluable techniques at your disposal right now. You can deal with all of the anger and bitterness that you have towards him in private, take some time to heal and then you will be seen as much more mature and dignified. Remember that you are trying to win back your man by being attractive to him. These traits are highly attractive whereas bitterness, emotional outbursts and begging are huge turn offs.

It will be very difficult to restrain yourself at times when you feel the urge to pick up the phone or tell him exactly how it hurts, but you need to think of the end goal here. Patience is key if you want to be successful and win back your man's heart. This no contact will be viewed by your ex as confusing - where have you suddenly gone? Why are you not interested in him anymore? Are you moving on? This will spur his mind into overdrive and he will get curious about your private life - this is what you want.

You Need To Start Looking Inwardly

It's time for you to undergo a transformation of sorts - not your physical appearance but your mental one. If you're holding on to any post-breakup angst, now is the time to let it go and that means entirely. You need to remove all traces of those hurt feelings and betrayal from your conscious and unconscious mind or you're going to risk letting your ex see them when you do start to communicate.

By deciding to actively pursue a relationship with your ex, you are telling the world that you stand by him - no matter what. That also means you have to sit down and talk to your friends. Tell them that while you appreciate their support, being mean-spirited towards your ex is doing more harm than good - and it needs to stop.

After your inward emotional evolution, some things are going to inevitably change - including the attention of your ex-boyfriend. It was a lot of hard work but you may think that it only affects you. Nothing could be further from the truth. By submitting yourself to the process of reevaluating and examining your emotions and coming out with a renewed and more positive attitude, you're instantly becoming more attractive. In fact, your newfound change in perspective may remind your ex of the girl he first fell in love with. You're presenting yourself with confidence that proclaims to the world that you're ready to face it head-on and you're not willing to simply stand there with your head in the sand.

How He Will View You

It is going to be impossible for your ex-boyfriend to ignore the new you. Think back to when you first got together. He found your charm, your humor and your self-confidence unbelievably hot and by reconnecting with the inner you, you're bringing those traits to life in a new and obvious way. You're recognized the potential for growth within yourself and stopped focusing on the breakup as a whole. It became a tool to grow from - not something that continually had to hold you back.

You are quickly transitioning from the hunter to the hunted. The time for action for you is now temporarily on hold while you wait for your ex to make a move. That doesn't mean retreating back to the couch and undoing all of your hard work. Go out and have some fun - but don't broadcast your activities to the world in a way that will get back to your ex-boyfriend and he will be much more likely to call you as a result.

Your Next Steps

You need to learn more about the no contact rule, what it entails, how long it lasts and what you should be doing during it. If you get this part correct you will hugely increase your chances of winning back your man. After that it is essential that you implement some get him back techniques. These will encourage him to get in touch with you and pursue you again.

Are you curious about how he really feels about you? Look out for signs he still loves you. He will be giving off clues even if he doesn't know it. When you know where you stand you will be able to use this info to your advantage. Good luck!