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Winning Back An Ex - How To Accomplish It
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Winning Back An Ex  -  How To Accomplish It

One of the worst feelings in the world is a breakup that catches you completely off-guard. It automatically puts you into a negative space and causes a lot of unpleasant side effects, like stress, anxiety, depression and self-doubt. The worst effect of an unwanted and unexpected breakup, however, is the complete lack of hope. Don't give up just yet - there are ways for you to regain your relationship and get things back to the way you dream they can be.

Breakups encourage a lot of bad behavior. There are a lot of mistakes to be made, and they are just ripe for the picking. With so many wrong moves all around you, how can you determine which ideas are bad - and which ones actually have a chance of working for you? The reality is that if you make mistakes and continually overstep your bounds, you're going to wind up in an even worse position than you are now - and you won't have a shot of getting your relationship back at all.

The biggest mistake that a lot of people in your position make is trying to move too quickly. Things seem desperate after a breakup, and you feel as though you're wasting time. Every moment that you don't do anything allows your ex to slip even further away from you - and you're desperate to stop the rush. You're right - action should be taken, but you need to take the right actions and think things through before just jumping into the fire.

Regain Forward Momentum:

You can't hope to fix anything if you're unaware of why things fell apart. Examining your breakup for clues may not be a pleasant prospect, but it is one that needs to be done. Any breakup involves some kind of rejection. Not only did your ex reject the relationship that you shared and enjoyed - they also rejected you, and it's hard to overcome that sense of rejection and reclaim your lost self-confidence.

When the breakup first took place, you probably tried to fight it tooth and nail. You believed that if you demonstrated how valuable the relationship was to you that your ex would suddenly reconsider their decision and take the whole thing back. It didn't work. Then you tried to remind them of how good the two of you used to be together. You tried to connect with them emotionally again, but that didn't work out any better. If you want to know how your ex feels right now, there is only one thing that you need to understand. For whatever reason, they were unhappy in your relationship. Understanding why can enable you to change the way that they see things, and get you headed towards a renewed relationship where you're not just running in blind.

Help the Process Along:

There is only one thing that you need to do before reclaiming your relationship can even become a remote possibility. Your ex doesn't want you right now. Admitting it sucks, but it's the first step in an exhaustive process - and until they do, you're never going to be able to take a single step forward.

Right now you're not an attractive prospect when it comes to dating in the mind of your ex. All of your negative behavior has factored in and caused a strain on their perception. After all, you have to realize that they probably thought things through prior to the breakup - and they most likely didn't just do it on the spur of the moment. If you try to win them back over before you can break down that barrier, your efforts will all be in vain, and there's simply no hope for moving forward until that happens.

All of the things that you tried to do after your ex broke the news about your breakup are going to come into play here. They've come to see you as someone completely opposite to the person that they initially fell in love with. You're argumentative. You're emotional. You're clingy or needy or desperate - and no one seriously considers a relationship with someone so steeped in desperation.

Become the person that you used to be, instead. They fell in love with you for a reason. They saw something in you that they couldn't find in anyone else, so it makes sense that the key to winning them back is to show them that person is still there. Be charming. Be humorous. Use your brilliant personality to your advantage, and let your ex see that the person that they first fell for is still there - even if they couldn't see them for a while. Show them that, although the breakup was difficult, it's not going to rule your life. You can reconnect with your former self and improve upon your best qualities. Ultimately, that's going to put you in the perfect position to act - and bring your relationship back to the way things were.

When you first got together with your ex, things seemed perfect. They think that person and that feeling cannot be recovered - at least not with you. Show them how wrong that assumption is by going through a full makeover - inside and out. The depressed, needy, clingy person that you were after the breakup was a temporary inconvenience. You're not going to let it get you down. You're still the same person underneath - and now you're going to bring that person back to life - in a real, remarkable way.

Next Moves Designed for Success:

Even if a significant amount of time has passed since you and your ex broke up, there is still hope to reclaim it and win your ex back for good. You can become a part of your ex's life again - as long as you're willing to put in the work and initiate a plan that can get them to see you differently again.

Getting your ex back is a complicated and lengthy process. It takes time. More than that, however, it takes a plan. Knowing what to do and say and when to say it is a critical part of the process - one that is going to make all of the difference when it comes time to act in a positive, proactive manner.

What’s Next?

Winning back an ex is quite an undertaking if you do not know what you are doing. You have to have a plan in place in order to be successful. First step is to learn these break up mistakes and avoid them at all costs. There are things that you will be doing that will turn your ex off you completely, trouble is that most people have no idea what they are and that they are even doing them.

Also be on the lookout for signs ex still loves you. Your ex will be exhibiting key signs that they are interested and have feelings for you. It is up to you to read these signs and take action.

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