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Ex Boyfriend Still Cares - What Did He Mean By That?
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Ex Boyfriend Still Cares  -  What Did He Mean By That?

Sometimes men should come with a translator. It's like they speak a different language - or maybe they really are from Mars. Their body language and demeanor are almost beyond recognition, yet they get frustrated when we can't magically read their minds. How many times have you had to check with your friends to decipher what a guy means? If you've asked more than one person, you probably got more than one answer. We've shared emails, text messages and even voicemails with our female friends at work and at home, trying to come up with a reasonable translation of what our guy's latest message meant.

The simple fact of the matter is that our friends are probably no better at figuring out the meaning behind his words than we are - unless they are channeling him in some weird and unexplainable psychic connection. That would probably create more problems than it would solve. More often than not, our girlfriends will try to be helpful and offer tidbits of advice that they think we want to hear. They'll tell us that it's obvious that he still has feelings for us just because he sent you a message to say hello. And chances are it's not at all what he was intending.

Don't Get Too Excited

If your ex tells you suddenly and seemingly out of the blue that he still cares about you, it's easy to see why your heart may skip a beat and you think it's a clear sign that your relationship is about to have a new beginning. But is that really what he means?

The truth is that you simply shouldn't believe everything that he tells you - not because he's lying, but because we put our own spin on how we interpret seemingly obvious phrases, and it may not be that simple.

We say a lot of things for a wide variety of reasons, and men are no different. We tell our friends how great they look in their prized new outfit when we really know that it doesn't highlight their best features at all. We never tell our friends that their new evening gown makes them look fat. We compliment others and say things we don't mean because we are sensitive to their feelings and don't want to hurt them.

He Might Feel Guilty And Wants To Soften Things Over

Guys are the same way. If your ex chose to end the relationship, he probably feels guilty for causing you heartache. By telling you that he still cares about you, you're right - there probably is a deeper meaning beneath his words. It just may not be the meaning that you want it to be. It's possible to care for someone and not want to be with them. In fact, the word "care" can mean very different things to different people. It may mean something to you, while it means something completely opposite to him.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Keep in mind that actions speak much louder than any words can. When searching for hidden meaning in your ex's message, it's vital to examine more than just his words. Look at his actions as well. Has he gone off the radar since you broke up? Are you not seeing each other very much? Has he been distant? If so, don't put a lot of faith in his words. He probably means that he cares about your happiness, or that he cares about you as a person. That's definitely not the same thing as saying that he misses you, still has feelings for you and wants you back.

However, if he is going out of his way to run into you, then it's possible that some feelings still exist. He would have no reason to try and impress you more make a good impression if he didn't care about what you thought or felt. Is he trying to make an effort or show you that he's changed? These can be clues that he's looking to reconnect.

Try To Be Objective

The best thing for you to do is to take some breathing room. Step back from the emotions of the situation and examine the big picture and not just little snapshots. Couples drift away from each other once the relationship has come to an end. A friendship with an ex is possible, and can even lead to a lifelong connection that is far healthier than your romantic relationship ever was. Consider where you are in your life, and then think about where he is. Is he dating? If he's seeing someone else even casually, it's far more likely that his expression of caring is more about being friendly than it is romantic.

He Could Actually Want You Back

There is some light at the end of the tunnel, though. If you're desperately holding out for a chance to get back together with your guy, there is an aspect of this that you can hold onto. If your ex is actively seeking you out or attempting to maintain contact more often, his words take on an entirely different tone. By keeping himself involved in your daily life, he can be finding it difficult to let go. He's having a hard time moving on - or he doesn't want to. If he's asked you point blank if you're interested in anyone else or if you still care about him, he's clearly fishing for information. These questions combined with his statement go a long way in determining the reasons behind his words, and can easily mean that he still has romantic feelings towards you and may be interested in exploring them.

Regardless of his intentions, it's important that you stay focused and realistic. Don't let your mind run away with you even if it has a tendency to wander. Getting your hopes up can make disappointment even harder to take if it turns out that he's not interested in rekindling your romance. Being let down will only make the process of moving on even more difficult than it already is. Use his actions as a dictionary of sorts. They hold the key to decoding the meaning behind his words.

Next Steps

Now that you have an insight into the meaning hidden in his words, it's time to learn how to use specific communication techniques to your advantage. Using communication can be a key way to re-establish a connection and most importantly, make him want you back.

Judge his words through his actions first and foremost. After that, you should definitely clue in on the signs that he's throwing your way. If you are asking yourself "Does he still like me?" then you definitely need to be identifying his signals. Reading these correctly can greatly enhance your chances of getting your ex back and avoiding common mistakes in trying to revitalize a lost romance.


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