No matter how many times we get hurt, we still take a chance and fall in love. Love is hope, love is pleasure, love is patience, and love is happiness. We crave for love even if we had bad experiences and were hurt in the past but what if we are trying to find it with our ex…? How not to fall in love with your past again…?

When you break up with the person you must have a reason for that. Do not forget it and even though it might hurt you, you should keep it in your mind when you are somewhere around your ex. We break up, the time passes, the memories become more vivid but the pain that the person caused you is always somewhere in your heart and you should not forget that it is somewhere out there. After your pain went away, you look at the person and you remember his kisses, flowers and restaurants but always think about it more…. how many flowers he gave you…? Was it a restaurant you went to or just a pizza place…? Memory might trick you and give you an impression that you were wrong when you broke up. Then you have to look at him, get rid of the bias and really think of why did you break up, why were you unhappy. Before letting yourself go the same road evaluate if you really want to go through the same thing again, fell everything you already felt and have the same thoughts you already had.

Accept his bad sides that made you break up with him know that it is very rare that people change. Of course, there are guys who realize their bad sides and try to change but those guys are so rare that I don’t think a modern woman saw one. Man stay the same, they don’t think that it is necessary for them to change, that the problem is always with us, woman. Your ex might seem different but it will be either your imagination or that you miss him (or think that you miss him). Don’t be fooled by yourself, people mostly stay the same.

Another bad reason that might drag you back into a relationship with your ex is loneliness…. When you had your ex and he was your present, you were with a guy and he was next to you. Then you broke up. Now you have no new candidate and you feel that even the bad relationship was better than being alone now… but you should not look back, look in the future because your prince might be out there trying to find you while you think of getting back with your ex because of boredom. So being lonely and have no one new in your life, is not a good reason to go back to your past. Don’t let your mind play a joke with you.

We can never be sure that getting back with your ex is a mistake. There are of course people that are happy after all. If you broke up with a person and you are still in love after all, maybe trying again is a way to make yourself happy. But before going backwards make sure that your feeling are real and that it is really what you want and need. But don’t get fooled by exceptions. Life is tricky and the best way to live it to the fullest is to look into the future at all times, no matter what, no matter who…