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If you have ever had your heart broken, you are probably feeling sad, lonely, and depressed. Well, cheer up! I have got some good news for you. I am a relationship expert, who can help you get over the hurt and pain. The reason I can help you get over the pain is because I am an ordinary person just like you, who has had my heart broken many times too! I have been in several relationships and I have always been the kind of person who has given more than the person I was with (60/40, 70/30, 80/20). If you have had your heart broke, you are probably the same kind of person. They say that, "Good guys finish last.", but that does not necessarily have to be the case. There are some principles each broken-hearted person must understand before they can get over an unappreciative lover or spouse.

In order to get over a broken heart, the first thing a person must do is realize that there is nothing they could have done that would have changed the outcome of the relationship. The relationship was doomed to fail from the beginning. "The adversity that you experienced in the relationship only proved that it wasn't going to work; it wasn't the reason it didn't work." Broken hearts only heal by accepting that they did every thing they possibly could to make it work and it is not their fault that it did not work. The truth of the matter is that after you (the broken-hearted) have accepted that you did the best you could and were still unappreciated, you should become angry. No. I am not talking about the kind of anger that goes and does something stupid like busting windows or flattening tires, but the kind of angry that births change and is a catalyst for your new beginning. I am talking about the kind of anger that is properly focused. Not to preach, but even the Bible says, "Be ye angry and sin not." Most people think that simply as a warning against sin, but it is actually an observance of the fact that anger can be useful. Yes. Anger can be helpful.

If you think about it, even from childhood, anytime you were ever angry it was because you were trying to change something. A broken- hearted person like yourself must realize that "What you can tolerate, you cannot change." As long as you are willing to tolerate an unappreciative, cheating, or abusive lover, you will never be able to change your situation. What you allow will continue and what you permit will increase. Being angry means that you are intolerable of something. It is a clue to something you need to change. Anger births change. If you want to change your repeated abuse and pain in a relationship or relationships, my advice to all of the broken hearts in the world is, "Don't get sad, lonely, and depressed. Get angry and get over it!"

Roy McKoy is an ordinary guy who is considered an expert by everyone he talks to concerning relationships. His advice and friendship has been highly sought after because of his wisdom concerning relationships and his knowledge of how to get over hurt and getting through difficult situations.


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babarah  

GOD BLESS THE DAY HOW I GET MY EX HUSBAND BACK Hello my name is Babarah from CANADA. i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the picture.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost…then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn’t know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned the kids.. so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster…so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn’t believe in all those things… then when he did the special prayers and spell, after 2days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn’t believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy..in case anyone needs this man, his email address ogumensolutioncenter@yahoo. com spells is for a better life. again his email is ogumensolutioncenter@yahoo. com OR call him with this number+2348112060028

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  about 5 years ago
bianca1  

i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

Reply
  about 7 years ago
bianca1  

i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

Reply
  about 7 years ago
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