“Breaking up is hard to do” I have heard this line so many times and have even felt like that at one point in my life. When we become accustomed to another person it’s hard to imagine life without them. In some cases we’ve developed new interests, style of dress, speaking patterns, hobbies, and different friends. All of these come at a particular cost to all parties involved. You can try to fight it all you want but at some point we all end up compromising in a relationship. The road back to who we were before the relationship becomes cloudy and often times we second guess and start blaming ourselves completely. It’s time to realize in most relationships when two people break up each can claim their percent of the blame. With that being said lets talk about ways to get over your ex and free yourself from this mental burden.

How to Get Over Your Ex Lesson 1:

It is extremely vital to your sanity that you re-discover who you are as a person. There is no one on this earth that has the right or power to assign any type of value to us. Be in charge of determining what your worth is and aim high! First things first you need to get up, shower, and start getting out there and becoming a more valuable person. Yes these work perfectly in the order presented trust me! Were you a writer or musician in the making? Rediscover you inner (insert here) that made you happy before you met your ex. It time to figure out your goals and what you want from your life.

How to Get Over Your Ex Lesson 2:

Clean up your home, apartment, or room. I know this is going to sound like a completely different topic but hear me out. You know that feeling you get when you’ve just cleaned your car or you cleaned your room and things are perfectly organized and smelling good? That sense of accomplishment you get and the freedom from all that mess. First and foremost you’re getting rid of junk and showing pride for what you own. The second and amazing part is it transfers to how you feel about yourself. Why not take pride in yourself you deserve it! Try living in utter mess for a week and then clean up. Note the difference in the way you feel and the way you carry yourself. So clean up my friend!

How to Get Over Your Ex Lesson 3:

Cease and desist all pet names when referring to your ex. If his name is Mark stop referring to him as “Mr. Cuddles worth”(dude really ?) and if her name is Tiffany please stop referring to her as “ Sexy MF” The greater your longing for the past the harder it will be to let go.You have to understand that it’s okay to have good memories but that’s what they are at this point. The more you try to go on your mental time machine and start tweaking your memories to the happiest time on earth the more damage you do.

How to Get Over Your Ex Lesson 4:

If applicable and your old enough for this rule no drunken texting. Okay I’m serious NO DRUNK TEXTING! You are going to hate yourself in the morning when you confess how you’ve been thinking about them when you’re eating your Rice Crispi’s. “Oh baby you always remind me of snap” Yea snap yourself out of this and don’t do it! Drink in moderation if you must and remember you are trying to build yourself back up. Alcohol can sometimes bring emotions you don’t want entering into the arena.

How to Get Over Your Ex Lesson 5:

Picture this a warm summer night your ex is standing in the window and they are flipping the blinds because the neighbors keep reporting a strange figure looking at the house. Listen Captain Crazy no one wants to see you at 3am with your Power Ranger jammies blasting “Moments in Love” from your Civic. You’re better than that! I have seen people make serious life changing mistakes when they start stalking. Do you like the idea of a restraining order on your record? How about you’re your significant other possibly moving on with their life and having fun? Are you ready for that? I know it’s hard I’ve been the stalker and I’ve been the stalkee (Ms. Palin said it was invent a word day). I understand the thought process if I show I care by calling, texting, dedicating songs they will fall madly in love with me again. Unfortunately most people file such behavior under the infamous stalker file. Remember the best form of revenge is recovery.

How to Get Over Your Ex Lesson 6:

Stay away from overly emotional people who are having relationship problems of their own. Guess what in most cases they really don’t have anything good to say. They are looking to vent their own frustration in their relationship and anyone will do. They will come off as caring but don’t be fooled. I’m really starting to believe they hang upside down like bats and swarm down at the first sign of drama. Make a list of your non judgmental family/friends and seek them out for guidance.

How to Get Over Your Ex Lesson 7:

This should have been number 1 to me. I’m sorry I’ve been dying to get that line out of my system! Don’t exaggerate what’s happening to you. The sooner you realize that break ups are a normal part of life the sooner you can recover. A break up doesn’t signify a failure of you as a person. Water and oil despite both being liquids will never mix well. Sometimes two people despite their best intentions will never blend. Allow youurself time to heal and this time don't compromise. You're worth it !

I am a huge fan of books and the ease of learning the internet presents. Understand this is a time of reflection to learn from your mistakes and build on to better relationships. You can find a way to heal yourself and not pop pills or be sitting in a doctor’s chair generating a bill. I’m not knocking doctors but I believe a lot of the healing generates when we develop a strong mind . In my opinion it's the key to getting over your ex. You must become a person of strong will with a mission to get over your ex. Thank you for reading and remember you can do it! Please excuse me they are towing my civic!