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Making Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous - How To Do It
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Making Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous  -  How To Do It

Learning how to make your ex boyfriend jealous is a fine art that you must master correctly. You will probably be desperate and see jealousy as a last option because it seems your boyfriend really has forgotten that you exist. And no matter how much you wish for him to call, it feels like he is slipping further and further away from you. A lot of girls assume that jealousy will fix all of these problems overnight, it can be the case if it is used correctly, but watch out, using it the wrong way can spell disaster.

Although most relationships are complicated, there are certain reasons why your ex boyfriend won't contact you. The first reason is that he wants you to make the first move. He doesn't want to appear weak, and considering his own emotional anxieties, he may not want to risk rejection.

The second reason is that a breakup can be just as difficult for men as they are for women. So if he's not calling you, it may be because he wants to sort out his own feelings about you and your relationship.

And thirdly, your ex boyfriend refuses to contact you because he doesn't miss you yet. Considering how emotionally devastating breakups are, some men prefer to try new things in order to fill the emotional void that they are experiencing.

So now the next question is, how do you get him back? Well, for many women, the answer can be summed up in one word: Jealousy.

Jealousy is an emotional response. A strong emotional response is often better than the most sophisticated appeals and love letters. If you can get your ex boyfriend to feel jealous then all the memories of your relationship will come flooding back to him. When this happens, he will try to contact you just to see how you are doing.

Having said that, it's important to remember that there are several ways to make your ex boyfriend jealous. And even if your ex boyfriend seems cold and aloof at the moment, it's important to remember that there are still emotional bonds between the two to you. Getting him jealous will allow you to spark those bonds back to life.

Step 1: Accept The Situation

First of all, it's important to face up to reality. You and your boyfriend have broken up, and wishful thinking will not help you. At this point, you have to realize that he's not likely to come back to you on his own in the near future, but this does not mean that you should go after him either.

At the early stages of the breakup, it's prudent not to go after him. If you and your ex had a deep relationship then you need to give him time to think about what he lost. This will destroy his confidence and at the same time, damage his ego.

Step 2: Be Patient

One of the trickiest things about break ups is the "cold war" phase. Both you and your ex boyfriend are waiting for the other to make the first move. The longer you both wait, the more doubt comes into your minds. This is something that you need to understand if you want to get your ex boyfriend back.

Doubt breeds jealousy. So even though you'll have doubts of your own, it's important to be patient. Sooner or later, you and your ex will eventually need to talk. It's inevitable, and when that day comes, you need to be prepared, just as he will be prepared.

So after the break up, it's important to cut off all ties indefinitely. This includes text messages, phone calls, emails and Facebook. Discipline is important. You need to detach yourself completely from your ex's life. Not only will this breed doubt in your ex, it will also give you the time you need to emotionally prepare yourself for the next phase of making your ex boyfriend jealous.

Step 3: Start Dating Other Guys

Now this is where the fun starts. Start dating someone, and make sure that your ex boyfriend is aware of him. It may not be easy, but dating is a sign of confidence and self-respect. Remember that men respect strength, and although you probably prefer love, the truth is that if you ever want to get back with your ex then you will need to show personal and emotional strength to him.

However, this does not necessarily mean that you should grab the first guy that comes your way. You need to find someone that you actually like, or someone who you've been friends with for some time. This will make the dates less awkward, and you'll have fewer troubles along the way. Also, keep in mind that a date is a goal in and of itself. It will help you take your mind off the break up, and keep you optimistic despite your anxieties. If you're ex boyfriend sees you dating, great! If not, you'll have fun anyway.

Don't worry about your ex not noticing your dates. He'll learn about it sooner or later. Even if you and your ex have been apart for a long time, there are still some techniques that you can try to get his attention. From there, it's up to you to step your game.

Step 4: Reestablishing Communication

Aside from making your ex boyfriend jealous, you also need to make your ex boyfriend miss you. You can do this by psychological techniques that will help your boyfriend remember what you used to have back when you were together. A good way to do this is through the no contact rule. If you follow proven strategies in a sensible way, you will be sure to gain a positive reaction from him.

Your Next Steps

Before you can start doing any of these things however, you first need to make sure that he still loves you. If he is no longer interested in you or if the feelings are no longer there, then no amount of jealousy will fix your relationship. Reading the signs he still loves you is a good place to start, this will enable you to know exactly where you stand.

After that, a good idea would be for you to go back to basics and understand the real reason why guys dump you. The thing to remember is that males and females think completely differently when it comes to relationships. If you can identify what caused your break up in the first instance, it will stop you from making the same mistakes again. Good luck!

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