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Should You Try To Make Your Ex Jealous? - No
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Should You Try To Make Your Ex Jealous?  -  No

If you're determined to win back your ex's heart, you probably realize that you're fighting an uphill battle. Reconciliation after a breakup is never going to be easy - and it's never going to be handed to you on a silver platter. If you want to get back together, you're going to have to do something to make that dream a reality, but what you do influences your chances of success exponentially. The path ahead is lined with a lot of dangerous ground. If you react negatively, you may just push them away for good. If you do nothing, however, you're certain to fail. What you do needs to be positive and influential, and you cannot rely on manipulating their emotions in an effort to change their minds about you - it's only going to backfire.

Jealousy is easily one of the most powerful and most often misused emotions known to the human race. It's impulsive and deadly and can turn on a dime without a second's warning. It's also completely useful when used in moderation. Before you turn to jealousy as a way to get back at your ex, you need to carefully consider the potential consequences involved - especially if you're going to be blatant about it, like jumping into a relationship with someone else solely to get your ex's attention.

You may be able to get away with it for a short while. Your ex notices that you're spending a lot of time with someone new, and they're fuming with jealousy. Things seem to be going according to plan beautifully - and then you wake up and it blows up in your face. No matter how convincing of an actor you may be, it's going to eventually become crystal clear that you are just trying to make them jealous on purpose. That realization will lead to anger, frustration and more on the part of your ex - and they're just going to see you as a desperate ex that would do anything to get their attention. You've shot yourself in the foot and blown your chance, and you most likely will not get another opportunity to try again.

The only time it is acceptable to begin dating again is when it feels right for you. Otherwise it's simply bad form to pull another, innocent person into your drama with your ex - and going for the easy jealousy card isn't going to get you anywhere - it's going to get you nowhere fast.

Ironically, getting out of the house can be just the boost you need to jump start your emotions again after the pain of a breakup. While it may seem like the opposite of what you want, you need to regain some aspect of social life, and that means getting out of your comfort zone and leaving the living room couch behind. In the course of your interactions, you may meet someone by chance - if you feel like you're ready to give dating another chance, go for it. It will only help you grow in the long run, and may just turn out better than you'd hoped.

That doesn't mean forcing yourself into a new relationship before you're ready, however. Far from it. You should only start dating again if you genuinely feel like you're ready to make that move - and not with some hidden agenda behind your decision. If you date, make sure you're doing it for positive reasons, and that means you can't go for it simply because you're hoping for (or expecting) a reaction from your ex.

Jealousy can get the ball rolling where other attempts have fallen flat. If you wore out every other trick in the book to try and win back your ex's affection, then jealousy may be a viable and profitable answer. It should never be your first shot to win your ex back, and it shouldn't be an immediate thing to trigger the second the relationship comes to an end. Using jealousy too quickly can make you look vindictive or passive-aggressive. There really is no limit on when jealousy can be effective, either. It often crops up long after you'd think that it would fade away, and it can always be a valuable asset to keep on-hand, just in case you need it.

Knowing when to use it and how to use it correctly is another thing entirely. It should never be an impulsive move on your part, and it should only be put into play when all your other options are exhausted. There are lots of other ways to get a positive reaction from your ex. If you give these methods a shot, you may find that you don't need jealousy at all. While it can be extremely effective, it is also risky, and it is best left out of the picture entirely unless absolutely necessary.

What To Do Next

So, should you try to make your ex jealous? Hopefully you have come to the conclusion that it is a bad idea. There are much better things that you could be doing with your time like trying to make your ex view you positively. One way to do this is to use the no contact rule to your advantage. Before you know it your ex will be the one calling and texting you. Another thing that you should be aware of is signs your ex loves you. This will enable you to know exactly where you stand and how effective your techniques have been up to this point.

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