Would you agree that breaking up is always a drag? Whether the breakup was easy or hard, it doesn't matter, either one creates problems in your life and hurt feelings. How it happened is not important at the moment, you now want to get back together with your ex boyfriend. Perhaps you have already tried the begging and pleading route (seldom works anyway),or have made promises to change or even took drastic measures and split up his current relationship with another girl to win him back. Stop! Doing any of this things will make him think poorly of you and will just push him further away from you. There are better ways to go about getting back. Good news, right? Interested?

Your going to have to be realistic, that is the first thing you need to do. Seriously think about if you have any hope in hell of getting him back, and be willing to accept facts as they are. do not automaticly make the4 assumption that things can not be worked out between you. Although it can get discouraging, a large percentage of relationships are saveable if you are willing to do whatever is necassary and know how. Know how your current actions are effecting your goal of getting him back, be realistic at all times. Now if you are taking the time to read this article, I'm assuming he has not taken you back yet, probably the things your doing are not producing the result you desire.

Once you have a firm grip on reality, you can move to the next step. You have an ex boyfriend you want to get back, ok, you probably want to tell him how you feel. Be careful here! If you are communicating with him every day or a dozen times a day, you are overdoing things. He will think you are desperate, and that is not an attractive trait. Your best bet at the moment is to cut communication with him for the time being. Cut all contact! No texting, phoning or email, and please do not try to "accidentally" run into him in your favorite hang out spots.

You do not want to convince him to come back to you, that;s the real secret to this, you want him to think its his idea and that you are the kind of girl he wants to be together with. You are using a bit of psychology here in getting him back. You both just broke up, so if you push too much, he will just back away. So, what do you do? you just keep on living your life as usual. Hang out with good friends, go out and do things with them and do not forget the most important thing, take good care of yourself.

When suffecient time has past and he hasn't heard from you in awhile, he will start wondering about you and what you have been doing. If you have been out with your friends and going out, word has gotten back to him most likely, but make sure it is not you that told him. If you're patient, eventually he will call. When he does call, be on your best behavior and do not start pushing the idea of getting back together down his throat. Just arrange a face-to-face meeting somewhere where you both feel comfortable talking. Keep in mind, you want to get your ex boyfriend back, so if you follow these tips, you have a head start on making your desire come true.