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Survive An Affair And Stay Married - 3 Steps
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Your spouse's cheating has totally rocked the foundation of your marriage. Your first emotions were shock and disbelief. Then came feelings of anger, hate, disgust, betrayal and hurt. Your spouse has asked for another chance. Despite the pain you want to survive the affair and stay married. Where do you begin.

Self Healing

The first step in surviving the affair is taking care of you. Your emotions are going to be in turmoil. Your first questions is usually the W questions? Why did my spouse do this, Will I ever trust my spouse again, Who else knows about this?. Instead of looking for the reasons for the affair, face the emotions you are dealing with right now, some of which may be guilt, shame, anger, revenge. Talk with a friend about how you feel. Get out of your house and go away for short time if possible. Do some pampering. Distract yourself with the things you like to do. Focus on you at this time to help cope with these emotions.

Healing as a Couple

After coming to terms with your self healing it is now time to heal as a couple. Meaningful communication is a critical part of this phase. Crucial conversations will include an apology from your spouse and willingness to forgive on your part. Be totally open and honest about your feelings on romance, trust, intimacy, and sex. Examine and define the unmet needs in your marriage and how you want to resolve these. An open door of communication will facilitate this process.

Rebuilding and Retaining your Marriage

Improving your communication in the couples healing phase will take you on your way to rebuilding your partnership together. You want a permanent relationship that will grow and be renewed as the years go by. Restoring trust, resolving conflict and revitalizing your sexual relationship are some of the core elements of the rebuilding process. Establishing these principles as the foundation for your marriage will take you to the place of surviving an affair and staying married.

Surviving the affair and staying married will require commitment, patience and great effort from both you and your spouse. Get the help you need now with this step-by-step plan at www.surviveanaffairandstaymarried.com.


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