It Can Take Years

In the news this week was Darrell Hammond's from SNL's interview on CNN. At first I wasn't going to watch the recap I knew I would find it to painful but I finally decided to do it. I congratulate him for having the courage to talk about such a horrific time in his young life and all that he has been through afterward. I understand his point regarding the doctors that have treated him, I come from a background not quite as bad but let's say we share similar backgrounds. I also was a Court Appointed Child Advocate for abused and neglected children for 6 years. I did not think the courts took thewhole thing as the serious issue that it is. The abuse after effects can be hidden away so you think, then they can just jump at you in a flash and raise their ugly heads. They can medicate you but no one can replace or help you with the fact that the person you should of had the most trust in and the closest bond with broke all of that. People that have not been through it have no idea what the disconnect and low self esteem this leaves you with for the rest of your life, I am happy that my children did not have to deal with it so no, I do not believe in the idea that if it was done to you , the behavior will be repeated. Why anyone would want to put their own children through that is something I struggle to try and understand.

How Can You Deal With It?

Mr. Hammond found something he enjoyed doing making people laugh, thank God he had that passion and I am happy for him in that respect. He sounds like a very intelligent man he understood why he needed the medication to stabilize him so that he could function in society but he was smart enough through it all to know the doctors really didn't know exactly what to do for him. In terms of treatment people can listen offer advise but they cannot take away the pain that's locked in there when it's emotional. I think the article also brings to light trauma triggers I call them when something happens to a person they may be doing okay in life even if he or she had a abusive pass and an event such as a death, divorce or lost of a job just triggers a whole mountain of hidden away emotional pain that rises to the surface like a storm. We still have to go through the storm and learn how to deal with life. Sometimes after a storm when things are calm we can evaluate ourselves talk honestly to someone we can trust and let the pain flow out. I believe that is what Mr. Hammond has done and he probably doesn't realize he has helped other people because of it through the media.

We All Have Paths

Each one of us was born for a reason with paths to follow to make us a better soul. I can't say I understand all of it but their are good people in the world and I actually see it as more of a learning environment a place to grow. Everyone has a talent in them somewhere maybe you just haven't fine tuned it or allowed it to flow from you yet. We all need an outlet interest, learn something new, find a passion and don't give up on it. Everyone has something to contribute even if you are feeling bad and can just smile at a couple of folks for the day or hold a door for someone it's a start. Create a Blog, today there are many sites like Google and others that will guide you along many Internet affiliate sites. It's really not that hard they guide you step by step. You can create one on any interest that you have and learn how to drive people to your site with the same interests as you from around the world, it can take the isolation away. You can have one up and running in less then an hour no kidding, use the Internet to your advantage. Remember everyone has a story to tell and a history that we can all learn from some just have more on their shoulders then others, life is a journey.