Today I’d like to tackle the issue or shall I say gift of singledom. Don’t worry I’m not here to rant about how sad or how great it is to be single. I think it’s actually a bit of both, depending on whether you’re a “the glass is half empty” or “the glass is half full” kind of person. The fact is, nothing happens before the right time, even finding “Mr” or “Mrs Right for you”, that’s just how God works. But in the meantime I’d advise you to pray.

I remember a few years ago when I went to church and my Sabbath School teacher told us that we should pray for our spouse. Until that moment I never really thought about it, well the praying part. I mean I thought I wanted to get married and of course I’d want to marry a good guy, after all, that’s how it was supposed to be. You go to school, get your education, start your career, get married…then comes the house, then the children .However, I’ve come to realise that life doesn’t usually flow that way, but let me not stray from the point, the fact is marriage is a big deal and it’s something worth praying for.

After being enlightened about the importance of the task of praying for a mate, I made a schedule, and I prayed at the same time, every day, until I forgot that is. All the same I’m back on the horse, nonetheless, it’s also important that you do it right. You have to pray for the right things.

Here’s the thing I’m sure you’ve heard before, I think it’s probably the golden rule, and that’s to never be superficial . The fact is all material things will fade away, including his/her good looks. On my list (yes I made a list), he has to be kind, gentle and most importantly, he must be in love with God. If a man/woman doesn’t love God first, they sure won’t know how to love you right.

Moreover, there’s one thing I wasn’t told and that’s to pray that you’re Mr or Mrs Right too. As important as it is to find the one we think we deserve, it’s important that we are the one they deserve. Also I understand that the wait can be frustrating sometimes, especially when it seems like everybody else has got somebody, but don’t you think that guy/girl is worth waiting for? Until your time comes, be patient, and trust in God’s timing.