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Being A Step Parent
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Being A Step Parent

A house is not a home and the home is not the house. A home is were you get the experience of living, sharing and growing with each other. I am a "step" father to my wife's son and daughter and I just can't get used to the word "step". I looked up the meaning of "step father" and its simply this: a man who has married one's mother after the death or divorce of one's father and another is: a man who takes over all the functions of the real father. I completely agree with these meanings, but still cannot come to grips with the word "step".

I am a father of three biological children and a step father to two, and I refuse to call my two step children...step. The minute I say yes I do to the mother of these children, they become mine. Meaning if the father wants to be apart of their lives then thats all good, but when it comes down to being the head of the home not the house, I am their father. I love my wife and so I refuse to put a "STEP" between me and her children they are mine. The home is builded with love, discipline and order. A man who provides for his family and still don't show love and discipline to his children is not creating a home, he is creating future chaos.

Some men love their wives but have no love for the wife child (or children), because the child did not come from their loins. In creating a home we must also remember that the child did not asked to be here on earth, we create them and so we are responsible for them take care of them if they are biological or "step". Being a "step" father has been a joy for me, not saying I am perfect in that area, but my wisdom comes from my Mom who had to deal with step children and did her best to let them feel like they belong to her! If you are a "step" mother or father then be careful what you call your other half child or children, cause they can be just a "step" away from leaving home. First and foremost the foundation of the home is builded by the parents. They first must show love and respect for each other and then as we teach they will see it already in action by the parents and then they will follow.

I am a firm believer of the word of God, and thats where most of my directions come from to be the husband and father that the Lord requires, and as long as I stay in line with that, I will be the father without the "step".


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I love your article it is so in line with my advocacy...i will continue to make my case. Step children... no no no they become your children....

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  about 8 years ago

I love your article it is so in line with my advocacy...i will continue to make my case. Step children... no no no they become your children....

Reply
  about 8 years ago
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