Step Family Problems - Part 4
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Step Family Problems  -  part 4

In essence we are trying to establish the steps that are more advantages to set up and transition into that of a blended family. With that said, between our openings to lesson three, what have been the arguments till now? This should refresh our memory to the point of integrating all of those points into part four.

First, the word “step” should be eliminated altogether to make acceptance easier. Secondly the word “blended” because its meaning seem to be more appropriate for the cause and the situation. Thirdly we wanted to use the most valid principals that I could think which would be the bible and thereby we look at the family from scripture lens. In doing that we established that blended family was more popular during the Mosaic dispensation and so the situation is nothing new. I think it was the old wise man, Solomon who said there is “nothing new” under the sun. Selah!!

In looking at it from those lenses we also gather enough understanding and information from Ephesians chapter six and chapter four and Colossians four to know that Paul sent to both places a great admonition to the leaders of their homes to eradicate all bitterness, anger etc. Paul in the fourth chapter specifically verse number thirty one asks them to release specific emotions which are very indicative that there exist those feeling among parents. But we went on to establish that the exact same thing occur today most time departure, separation or divorce divide family. Yes pride keep many of us from doing introspection and accepting responsibility.

Therefore with such attitudes we are apt to bring that same baggage with us when trying to establish another home with another partner. Since our children emulate our characters, they too tend to build barriers instead of building a bridge. But there is a particular commandment that is given as to our children’s feelings and emotions. “do not exasperate your children” which occurs far to often because of our own selfishness we stand guilty as charged!

Now these hinder any who sincerely wish to establish a drama free home from building their desire. But may I shall say it gives you what the adults wants but the children feeling are not taken into consideration which can make them the “symptom bearers”. Now this creates a dysfunctional home and it is the child’s fault, says you. However based on scripture I differ with any who may resort to that conclusion.

Now if you are among the female gender, please do not attempt to place blame on the man only! In Hebrews the eleventh chapter verse twenty three the word “parents’ in that text is used the exact same way. Do we know which parent hid “Baby Moses”? But still both seem to play a role in the hiding of the child but based on our understanding of the word both could have been or knew the place of hiding or perhaps only one actually took the child to the hiding place. Hopefully you do catch my drift! Please brothers Man Up! As I was told in school during a fight that it take two or more for a fight to occur and with this situation you both have a part of the blame. God Bless!


Street Talk

Kymee  

I have never been divorced and have raised 3 kids with together with their father. I am saying that they are kids. I listen to blended family issues and many of the same things happen. Parents not agreeing with disciple, one more favored than another and etc... I agree that there is nothing new and moms can not blame the dads they need to communicate to see where they are approaching this issue. It could actually be the moms fault. HMMM image that LOL Love this great article. God bless Kymee

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  about 8 years ago

A good thing.. you mention sibling rivalry which is a subject matter need addressing. Also you are on point when it comes to Mom! Another subject to address is the different ways to make up a blended families which I may include next if the Spirit lead me...Thanks for your comments and your follow sincerely! Carton image thought provoking...

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  about 8 years ago
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